Post # 1
Okay so I have two MOH’s and 4 Bridesmaids.
One of the MOH’s will be walking solo because she’s married. Which worked out perfect because FI had 5 groomsmen. Wellllll now he has 3. So that means 2 girls will not have a guy to walk down. I feel like my bridal party is gonna look like too much compared to his because in total on my side I’ll have 2 MOH’s, 4 Bridesmaids, 2 JR Bridesmaids, 1 flower girls. That’s 9 girls! On FI’s side it will be 3 groomsmen, 1 JR groomsmen, 1 ring bearer. That’s 5 guys.
I’m thinking of doing one of 3 things.
NONE OF THE GIRLS HAVE BOUGHT ANYTHING YET!!!! Our first appointment is tomorrow so I have to have made up my mind by 6 tonight.
Choice 1 (favorite choice) Explain to all the girls the situation and cut all the bridesmaids. The MOH’s can stay and my JR bridesmaids can stay because one is my sister and they other has a escort.
Choice 2 Ecplain to all of them and see what they say. Maybe some girls truly don’t mind not being in the wedding and will drop of their own free will.
Choice 3 Have a insanly big bridal party while my FI has no one on his end. lol
Post # 3
Girl, you’ve been around the Bee long enough to know that you do NOT have to have even sides. It is not a big deal.
Post # 4
@eecuadrado: I don’t think it matters if your sides are unbalanced. There is no ‘normal’ anymore – every wedding party arrangement can be as unique as every wedding. The only time the girls really get escorted by groomsmen is when leaving the alter after the ceremony, and when making the entrance before dinner. So change it up! Have all your bridesmaids come in at the same time, after all the groomsmen. Have some maids walk side by side down the aisle instead of with a groomsman. Make a joke in your wedding speech about who has more friends?! I don’t think you should change your party make-up at all. And who knows – your groom might even add to his side before all is said and done. Relax, in the big picture, this is a very small detail. No one will be judging your day based on how many you each have standing up for you 🙂
Post # 5
@eecuadrado: What? You don’t need even sides. Or if it makes you OCD crazy, you can have two girls be “ushers” or something. Don’t cut them or suggest they drop out, silly! No need for hurt feelings.
Post # 7
@MexiPino: Yeah you’re right it’s my OCD getting to me. Thanks for helping ladies.
Post # 8
@eecuadrado: why dont you have the married MOH walk alone…
and then have the other MOH with guy 1
and then do two bridemaids with guy 2
and two bridesmaids with guy 3
I think it is really rude to ask people to drop out…I would be upset if one of my good friends asked me to be in her wedding, and then took it back because there wasn’t equal groomsman/bridesmaids…
Post # 9
@Giraffelover: The maried MOH will be walking alone. But ohhhh that’s a good idea!!!! I like that! Thank you!
Post # 10
@eecuadrado: We have uneven sides too. We both happen to have 5 close friends and….one brother each. So we will have a veritable herd of 7 groomsmen and 5 bridesmaids.
One of our groomsmen is officiating, and I might have my brother walk my mom down. But it also wouldn’t bug me to have two guys escorting some of my BMs.
Post # 11
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@Giraffelover: +1, also curious as to why the married MOH has to walk alone??
Post # 12
@mchitt329: She doesn’t have to but I think it’ll look better to have the oldest person in the bridal party to walk alone.
Post # 13
@jdhall89: Oh okay cool cool Sounds good to me
Post # 14
I would just have uneven sides, I don’t think it’s a big deal! Not sure I’d even notice if I were a guest. I also think it would be super awkward to ask some of your BMs to step down.
Post # 15
Why not just skip the bridal party walking down the aisle? That seems to be the main issue here.
I voted for #2 though. I would explain it all and ask if anyone minds walking alone, or would rather skip being in the bridal party. I wouldn’t cut anyone after I’d asked them to be in my wedding.
Post # 16
@EmiliaRose: Yeah I would neverrrr ask only some of them to step down I have to ask them all or none or let them choose. But I’ll just go uneven no biggie