Bridesmaids-not getting back to me

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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871 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@Lizzy723:  I have had the same problem and I find doing email/FB message/ and text ALL AT THE SAME TIME sends a good sense of urgency. Also if you wait a day and that doesn’t work it is hard for them to avoid you in a phone call. If they dont answer leave a message and call again later. Most people dont respond because they dont think its a big deal or that you understand their answer without them answering so just be very direct and try a lot of methods all at once. Seriously my bridesmaids SUCK at responding but when I ask they are like oh I totes forgot or oh I didnt know I was supposed to. Its frustrating but I know they dont mean harm. 

Post # 4
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103 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@Lizzy723:  Maybe they don’t like the price for getting their hair done.  But if you’ve had this problem before, it could be a lot of things. They could be having a hard time with all the expenses combined, and everytime you message them or text them about what to wear, makeup, hair etc. the price of being a bridesmaid goes higher and higher, so they eventually quit responding. Being a bridesmaid is expensive, being a bridesmaid in a different state is even more expensive.  Hope everything works out for you!  

Post # 7
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1627 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Book your salon appointment, so that’s convered. If you trust them to do their own hair and for it to look great, then shoot them a follow up email with a response deadline. If they miss the deadline hair is in their hands, move on. If they can’t do their own hair then I suggest bugging the crap out of them and also finding a cheaper alternative.  I would balk.at $80 myself. My hair typically costs $40. I’d imagine there would be a ton of hairslray and product, so it’s not like the style would last beyond the wedding event.

Post # 8
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103 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@Lizzy723:  Hmm, well if it’s not the price then I don’t know what to tell you!  Sounds pretty cheap to me.    

Post # 9
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715 posts
Busy bee

@Lizzy723:  I do this sometimes like “if i don’t hear anything opposing my ideay by Monday, noon, then i’ll be assuming you’re all fine with that idea”. maybe that would help your communication as well?

Post # 10
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910 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Lizzy723:  Sounds stressful. Your parents are paying for their airfare and they are still being brats? Wow. 

Would you allow them to do their own hair if they do not confirm that they are okay with you making the hair appointment? I would caution booking it without their consent as they may argue that they didn’t agree so shouldn’t pay. I would probably say that you have gone ahead and booked your appointment and since you hadn’t heard back you will assum ethey are going to organize their own hair.

I know that’s a huge pain in the ass, but forcing people to do their ‘duties’ is hardly worth the stress that it will cause you on your wedding day.

Good luck with that! They sound like fun -_-

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@Lizzy723:  I personally would refuse to pay 80 for hair, maybe they’re not wanting to but feel awkward telling you that? Are you sure your message presented it in a way that seemes “optional’ to them? My advice is just to not book the appointment, if one of them later wants their hair done you can either see if an appointment is still available or tell them they’re speaking up too late. 

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