(Closed) Bridesmaids Pick Dresses?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think if you tell the BMs they can pick their own dress and all the girls can’t go together, these types of problems can’t be avoided… you may get 2-3 girls in the same dress, or one with straps and the other girls strapless.  Personally, I think that would be fine… but if you are worried about it, I think your best bet is to just pick one dress for all of the girls. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’m in a wedding where the bride is doing that and all she asked was that before we purchase we let her know what dress we are buying. (She wanted to make sure of the same thing). Just ask them to do that. Or you could even go online and select your top dresses and tell them they need to pick from those, and just be sure they check with you first to ensure no duplicates!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

You can choose 2-3 styles for them to choose from, that way at least a couple of them will be in the same style. The color and length and material of the dress will all add to it making it look uniform.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I am a BM in a wedding and the bride chose lapis and fern. We all went to davids and she just said she wanted everyone the same length. It ended up that all the fern girls liked the same dress and all the lapis girls got the same one.

I would just tell them all the color, length, and fabric. i think fabric too because the lapis in satin is VERY different then the other lapis.

Also dont have them order it that day. Have them pick there top 2 dresses and that way you can avoid all the what happens if they…..

Post # 7
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I was in a wedding with 5 other bridesmaids ranging in size 0 to 20.  We all wore lapis and chose whatever dress we wanted.  It looked fantastic.  Everyone was in a dress they liked, flattered them, and felt good in.  I always thought I wanted everyone in the same dress for my wedding, but this looked so much BETTER!! I let everyone choose their own dress for my wedding.

Post # 8
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I was in a wedding with 5 other bridesmaids ranging in size 0 to 20.  We all wore lapis and chose whatever dress we wanted.  It looked fantastic.  Everyone was in a dress they liked, flattered them, and felt good in.  I always thought I wanted everyone in the same dress for my wedding, but this looked so much BETTER!! I let everyone choose their own dress for my wedding.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I am thinking about doing this exact thing. I think I am just going to pre-select a bunch of dresses in the same fabric and let them each choose whatever they want. I agree that the fabric being consistent is important because the same color can look really different in different fabrics. But I decided I had to just let go of my “what if 2 pick the same dress,” “what if one picks straps and the rest pick strapless…” For me, the BMs being happy with their dresses is more important than those other things.

Good luck! 🙂

Post # 10
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: June 2010

oh, and two of my 6 girls picked the same dress.  I will just make sure they stand on opposite sides to keep things symmetrical Wink

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2010

This is what I’ve done for my wedding and it has worked out well so far.  I chose my color (I used David’s because of the convenience factor of location) and my only request is that their dresses be long length.  Keeping the color the same and with their matching boquets is uniform enough for my kind of wedding.  I bought them all the coordinating wrap also.  Go with your gut feeling and good luck 🙂

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I let my girls pick I have two colors one being lapis, they got to pick to color, and style dress, my only suggestion was length, I thought it would look funny to have some short and some long for an october wedding. They all seemed to like the idea and were able to buy a dress in their budget, and all of them have said that they know they can wear the dress again, especially if they just get them shortened after the wedding. Plus it helps add a little bit more funk and personality and I think all my girls appreciate the fact that they get to wear a dress the feel hot in cause I wouldn’t want to have to be in a wedding and everytime I see a picture of myself hate it because I thought I looked horrible in my dress.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

If you’re worried about a lack of cohesion, I’d just pick one dress.  I really don’t think 2-14 is such a dramatic difference in size and you could easily pick a dress that will look nice on everyone.  But as long as everyone is wearing the same color and length, that’s probably all the cohesion you need.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Oooh, ooohh me, me!  I did this ;o)  I gave the girls nine choices in watermelon (at DB) and let them pick whatever ones they wanted.  I didn’t worry about having too many of the same, and it worked out perfectly.  My sister/MOH wore a sash and peek a boo skirt to look a little different :o)

Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I have six bridesmaids and one MOH, all of which are very different body types and heights. I want everyone to feel beautiful and comfortable so first I selected the cut and color theme (satin in watermelon pink from David’s Bridal). Then, I went to the store with my MOH and she chose her dress.

I returned shortly after with my fiance and we browsed all other applicable styles in this fabric/color and chose our eight favorite styles. I then e-mailed a link to these eight styles to each BM explaining that they can pick any of these cuts. This way they can choose what they like and feel best in without us running the risk of having any ladies in dresses we hate.

So far everyone seems happy with this option (especially since the prices vary, so if someone’s on a budget they can chose one of the cheaper styles).

I’ve been a bridesmaid three times and each we were all wearing the exact same dress, so don’t feel bad if this is what you’d like to do. It’s your day and your bm’s are there to support you.

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