(Closed) Bridesmaid’s pick their own shoes???

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Should I allow the bridesmaids to pick their own shoes for my wedding day?
    Yes - you give them complete control : (21 votes)
    25 %
    Yes - you give them criteria to follow : (58 votes)
    68 %
    No - you pick the shoe entirely : (6 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
    929 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I am all for it- I say same philosophy for shoes as it was for dresses- pick a color, and a general idea, and let them find what works for themselves!

    Post # 3
    2788 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I let my BM’s pick whatever shoes they wanted because all of their dresses were long and no one would see them anyway!


    Post # 4
    1093 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I think letting them pick their own shoes with some guidelines is fine, so at least they might find something they might wear again!  I asked for their opinions though so we could have some sort of consensus before they picked their own shoes 🙂

    Post # 5
    6824 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I would just set criteria on what color or heel height. For mine, I basically told the girls to pick one of the colors that is my theme. I don’t care what height it is. The only thing said wasn’t allowed was flip fllops until the dance.

    Post # 6
    329 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    I voted yes – complete control, but then I was thinking you might want to set a little criteria. I told my girls they could get whatever yellow shoes they wanted. Open toe, closed toe, heel, flat, strappy, chunky, whatever…. as long as it was yellow.

    Post # 7
    233 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I think it’s fair to choose a colour, but I would not choose a height. Everyone’s feet are different, and they are comfortable in different shoes- styles, and especially height. I promise you no one will notice if one of your BMs is wearing a 2 inch heel and one of the is wearing a 2.5″ heel. Let them be comfortable, and choose their own shoe.

    Post # 8
    140 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I told my girls black dress sandals. I said if the want heels or flats that’s fine, but I would like something strapy. I figure if they are putitng the money up for them, let them pick what they want with-in reason, so they are comfortable and that.

    Post # 9
    4583 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I’m letting my BM’s pick any black shoes they feel comfortable in. My MOH has a bad foot so she’ll need to be in flats, another BM is petite and will probably want heels and the other BM is fairly tall and not super girlie so I can see her choosing either flats or a kitten heel. I’ve been having such a hard time finding dresses we all like (even with letting them choose their own style!) so at this point I really couldn’t care less what shoes they wear.

    Post # 10
    1276 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I voted to give them criteria to follow so you could at least choose a color. I’m letting my bridesmaids pick their own shoes but I should note that they have long dresses so you won’t really see them. I have a rough time in heels so you might want to think about their shoes before you suggests a heel height. Or maybe you could just say with a heel and leave the height to them or flat.  

    Post # 11
    6893 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I agree with @littlecat.

    Just pick a color they can all agree on, but I wouldn’t choose heel height. If a bride told me I had to wear a 3 inch heel I’d be pissed (I’m already 5’10, you want me to be taller than the groom?) lol.

    Post # 12
    1041 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    Im picking the color and requesting that it have a heel, but the rest is up tp them.

    Post # 14
    1205 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    I think you made a great decision!  I’m biased, though…I told my girls to wear LBD’s (whatever they want) and “black pumps”…anything with a slight heel is fine, but I wanted them not to be overly strappy and I wanted them to be black.  I’m easy!

    Post # 15
    5106 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I’m letting my BMs pick their own shoes, my only stipulation was that they are pewter. I want each girl to be comfortable and hopefully buy something she’ll wear again. Plus I think if I were in a wedding and the bride made us all get 4 inch heels or something I might die!

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