Bridesmaids plus ones

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

are you providing guests with plus ones? me personally just because they are in the wedding party I would give them the option of bringing someone just so they don’t feel left out and just let it be their choice. 

 

Post # 4
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10986 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@MrsChemE:  Etiquette requires only that you invite the husbands, wives, fiances/fiancees, and romantic domestic partners (only because etiquette presumes that couples who are living together are secretly married) of your guests.  You absolutely are not required to invite dates for your bridal party or other guests unless they meet one of those three criteria, regardless of how long a couple may or may not have been dating and regardless of how serious two people may otherwise perceive their relationship to be.

 

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@MrsChemE:  Technically, if they are not in a relationship, you don’t have to give them a plus one. However, they are spending a lot on you and your wedding, so it is NICE to give them the option. Personally, I hate being the date of a bridal party member because you’re on your own so often, so if I weren’t in a relationship and was a BM, I wouldn’t bring a random date. 

Post # 6
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111 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Both of my BMs aren’t in relationships, but since they’re in the WP I gave them one. One isn’t bringing someone. The other is bringing a friend. I wish she just wouldn’t bring anyone instead of knocking up my guest count, but she has a different idea of how weddings should go that they should be large, and mine is small. But, she’s in the WP.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@MrsChemE:  is your wedding in 2015? If so you have time to sort all that out.  They may have BFs or FIs by then. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@MrsChemE:  I would give them plus ones. They will liely show up alone if you have them sit at a head table so that their date is not sitting alone with strangers.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@MrsChemE:  I can say, i just had a sorta seeing guy when  I was moh for a friend … i felt really bad sitting alone when everyoen else had a date … she also loved my ex and asked him as my date for me i was furious i didnt say a word i smiled and was nice I was glad he said he couldnt go out of town (i think he did that to save me lol) 

 

omg funny side note … she calls him and asks him to spell his first and last name  _ _ _ _ _  she says the letter out loud … B yes A Tgot it M A N lol haha the whole table laughs lol BATMAN 

 

ahhhhh i glad he didnt show though lol it would have been horrible having to be my ex`s date just cuz she liked how we looked together 

they are in your wedding party they pay for dresses and shoes and parties and hair and make up and so many things let them bring a date so they dont feel weird sitting alone when others are paired off 

Post # 11
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58 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Yes, agree, sounds like plenty of time to work that out.

I completely disagree with that etique rule Brielle mentioned above-  according to that rule, people in a five year relationship wouldn’t get a plus 1 because they haven’t tied the knot yet?  Or it depends on when people decide to move in together?  I absolutely feel required to invite the significant others of my friends, regardless of what steps they have taken, and before FI and I got engaged, people invited us as a couple to events.  I think it does depend on how serious they think the relationship is.  That to me isn’t even the question at all,  you get a plus 1 when you are in a relatinoship, the bigger question is when the relatinoship is just starting like at 2 months and i think then you defer to the couple.  At 2 months FI and I knew we would end up together but I know not all couples are like that.  Especially at a wedding where people can be prone to lonliness, why would you want to deprive someone of enjoyment by not inviting their significant other?

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