- 4 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
A little backstory: I got engaged in may, the wedding is in october, that’s a 5 month engagement which granted is short. We are planning a big wedding. Expecting 250-300 people.
Bridesmaids: I have 5 bridesmaids. I have a man of honor who is my best friend and whose “gayness” does not mean he knows what women want or do. I also have a JR bridesmaid who is 12, and a bridesmaid who lives out of the country. This leaves 2 traditional bridesmaids. I love these people and am so excited about having them accompany me on the big day but realize that this nontraditinal bridal party leads to some problems..
THe shower: No one has offered to host a shower. Now initially, I did not even want one bc I didnt want to register for gifts. FI wanted to register, so we did. Now we are having a shower. Problem is, the wedding is 3 months away and NO ONE ever offered to host it. So I asked my mom to do it, she said she doesnt know anything about American traditions and said she would pay but for me to organize it. SO I did. Oh and by the way, I paid the deposit too. After explaining to my mom that I was hurt by her lack of interest in anything related to my wedding she let my cousin help. My cousin is only 22 but good at organizign things. And also at tattling and telling me abt the arguments she has with my mom (annoying). I was recently let go by my job so there is no work shower. My FI’s family lives 6 hrs away so his family won’t be doing anything either.
THe bachelorette party: Originally, I didn’t want a bachelorette party. I think they are obnoxious, but I did want an evening with my closest friends, (minus the penis whistles, penis cake, mandatory matching outfits, stripper etc etc). My MOH asked if that was his job and is organizing it. Finally got that ball rolling…
The problem: Ony of my BMs is being so difficult about participating in anything. She is getting married a month before me and is very busy (caught up in) her own wedding. She also is moving at the end of the month to another state. Therefore, she is coming to neither the shower (falls during her moving day) or the bachelorette party (she;ll be on her honeymoon). Granted, these are valid reasons. But I am feeling frustrated because the dates would not have been a problem if she had helped to organize something! I organized my own shower. I figured out the dates for the bachelorette party. I suggested the weekend before the wedding but her FI is standing up in another wedding that weekend adn she said she was booked bc she was going to the rehearsal dinner with him. I’m sorry, but really, she could skip that to come.
By the way, I spent 1000+ flying to her Vegas bachelorette party, 200+ on her Bridal shower, I will also be paying for my dress, hair, makeup, nails, hotel for another 1000+ Oh and then there is her gift. Altogether, I am spending 2500+ on her wedding. Remember the part where I was let go from my job? Yeah, it sucks. Vegas happened a few days after that. For more on that: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/bachelorette-party-from-hell#axzz2bxmMCMUY
Oh and for my wedding, I am paying for all dresses, hair, makeup, nails, bought everyone MKors purses as their BM gifts and she will not need a hotel.
She keeps saying its a difficult time for her right now because she is planning a wedding and moving. Um hello. Me too…
I feel like I have no support and don’t know why. I work really hard to make events special for other people and am really feeling frustrated that no one is interested in helping me. I am not being a bridezilla here, but come on!