(Closed) Bridesmaid's proposal box and survival kit

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
1992 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@TheSpoons:  WOW! I just have to say this kit sounds AMAZING (and expensive! hehe) as well as complete! I think maybe the only other thing would be one of those little emergency sew kits (you know needle, thread, safety pins, band-aid, fashion tape, etc) but otherwise, it sounds awesome!

Well done you! You have some lucky BMs! Wink

Post # 4
4046 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

If you know they will accept, maybe the contact names, emails, and numbers of the other BMs and other important people like family members?

Post # 6
7776 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I hate to sound negative because it is wonderful how much thought and effort you have put into this, and 6/8 of them sound brilliant, especially the photo album and handwritten letter. But…

I’m in two minds about the brochure. I hope there’s not much on it, because it sounds a bit like a list of demands. On the other hand, you are commended for telling them about it up front. But personally, I would take the path of not expecting much from them, either in terms of time or money. (e.g. I’m a big believer in the bride buying the BMs’ dresses).

Also the camera, I hope this is for their personal use only, i.e. you don’t necessarily expect any photos back. I would hate to feel obliged to take a set of photos. I would be tempted to skip it.

Post # 7
6745 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

I have to disagree w/ the PP about the bride buying the BMs’ their dresses.  I guess I am very traditional in the role of the BM/MOH and I believe that the BMs are responsible for their own dresses and for throwing the shower, unless someone else is goign it, and bachelorette party.  If they can’t afford it, they should mention it from the start and let you know in advance that they can’t be in the bridal party.  Therefore, giving them the list of things in advance that you expect is great – if they don’t feel like this is for them, then they can decline. If you feel like your BMs might have a potential problem, then maybe you should have a disclaimer in fine print – something about how you want them to be your Bridesmaid or Best Man, but understand that the expense and responsibility isn’t for everyone and that there are no hard feelings if they decline or if they choose to accept and there are some things they feel like they can’t do/afford, to let you know so that you can help out in any way you can. 

Post # 8
581 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Sounds awesome. but I do think the brochure might be a little much.  It’s kind of like getting a syllabus from your teacher on the first day of class.  I would replace it with everyone’s contact info and then tell them you will e-mail them any important information when necessary. 

Post # 9
7776 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@futuremrsk18:  Sorry I don’t want to start a debate on buying the BMs’ dresses. I’m aware that is the tradition and most girls will be expecting it, it was really just a throwaway line. It was just part of a general comment that I’m a little concerned that a brochure might sound like a list of demands. Of course this all depends on how it’s written, I’m not saying it’s a bad thing. I guess what I’m saying is I like the idea of a list in a brochure, I just hope it’s short 🙂

Post # 11
52 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@TheSpoons:  I think it’s an adorable idea. Sounds like you’ve put a ton of thought and effort into this!

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