Bridesmaids shoes drama- will anyone notice?

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Should I let them wear mismatching shoes?
    Yes, let them do what they want noone will notice : (125 votes)
    98 %
    No, make them all wear the same : (3 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 2
    9526 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Nobody will notice. Let them wear what they want. It will make your life easier. And I actually think it looks better if they have a bit of difference from one girl to the next.

    Post # 3
    827 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    MrsKing212:  I agree with PP, especially with shoes. Personally, I get blisters ALL the time and I know what I feel comfortable in so I would really appreciate the choice of picking my own shoes out.

    Post # 4
    1582 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014


    Nobody will notice.

    Post # 5
    239 posts
    Helper bee

    No one will notice! I was just in a wedding and so was my sisters. SHE did not want to wear high heels because she can’t walk in them and hates heels.  The bride refused and made us all wear heels! What happen the day of the wedding my sister fell 3 TIMES down the aisle because she couldn’t walk in heels. Let them wear whats comfortable them.

    Post # 7
    194 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    i went to a wedding a few years ago all different colors, all different dresses, all different shoes. i dont think there was a single thing on those girls that was the same. even the jewerly was different. As was the wedding; it was different alright. i thought it looked unorganized and kind of silly that all the girls looked so different. Seeing as it sounds like all your girls have the same color/dress i think it will look fine. it will set them all apart in their own little way. And really unless someone is wearing hooker boots then i dont think anyone will even notice

    Post # 8
    192 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Nobody will notice, I gave my BM’s the option when it came to shoes. As long as they are silver and dress appropriate, it doesn’t matter what height. I would much rather they each feel good in what they are wearing than force them to wear something they will be miserable in. 

    Post # 9
    4965 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    MrsKing212:  I don’t think anyone will notice. I let my girls choose their own shoes (all I requested was silver) and they all wore varying heights (then again, my dresses were floor length).

    Post # 10
    445 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    No one will notice! I had long dresses but my girls are wore whatever color and height. I was recently a bridesmaid and we were told to pick any cream or nude shoes. In pictures no one can tell and I doubt any guests noticed either. 

    Post # 11
    1893 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - Dallas, TX

    No one will notice. My girls are in short dresses and I’m letting them all pick whatever shoes they want as long as they are nude.

    Post # 12
    4147 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Even if people notice, they won’t care.  I told my girls to pick any black heel they wanted and any black dress they had as long as it was dressy and knee length.  It turned out great!

    Post # 13
    47 posts
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I have a bridesmaid who never wears dresses (as in this will be the 3rd time ever that her husband has ever seen her in a dress including when they got married in the 10 years they’ve been together) and she certainly doesn’t wear heels- I’m already pushing her comfort level with the dress. Another wears really high platform heels when she wears them. I’d rather them be comfortable with what they’re wearing and not fall on their faces bc I made them wear something else. They can’t blame me for the shoes they choose to wear

    Post # 14
    913 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2014 - 11/15/14-Vineyard

    I will say…I have been to hundreds of weddings over the years and I can NOT tell you one wear I remembered what shoes they are wearing. 


    Let them wear what they want. 

    Post # 15
    479 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I let mine pick theirs; my only requirement aside from color was they couldn’t be more than 2.5″ high because I would be wearing flats and I am already the shortest of all of them!  Everyone thought it was really cute!  I also bought them mismatched jewelry!  The horror!

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