Post # 1
So.. this may sound a little silly but my bridesmaids are currently having an argument over their shoes. They can’t all agree on a style and one says she can’t walk in heels at all and will need something flat while another likes sky high heels.
As a solution, they want to all wear plain black heels but in varying heights etc. My bridesmaids dresses are a purple colour, knee high length.
I’m worried it will look odd, but then I thought maybe noone really looks at the bridesmaids shoes and it’s better they are happy and comfortable on the day!? Advice please.
Post # 2
Nobody will notice. Let them wear what they want. It will make your life easier. And I actually think it looks better if they have a bit of difference from one girl to the next.
Post # 3
MrsKing212: I agree with PP, especially with shoes. Personally, I get blisters ALL the time and I know what I feel comfortable in so I would really appreciate the choice of picking my own shoes out.
Post # 5
No one will notice! I was just in a wedding and so was my sisters. SHE did not want to wear high heels because she can’t walk in them and hates heels. The bride refused and made us all wear heels! What happen the day of the wedding my sister fell 3 TIMES down the aisle because she couldn’t walk in heels. Let them wear whats comfortable them.
Post # 6
dessilove: Oh no! That would be dreadful! I definitely don’t want to make them uncomfortable!
Post # 7
i went to a wedding a few years ago all different colors, all different dresses, all different shoes. i dont think there was a single thing on those girls that was the same. even the jewerly was different. As was the wedding; it was different alright. i thought it looked unorganized and kind of silly that all the girls looked so different. Seeing as it sounds like all your girls have the same color/dress i think it will look fine. it will set them all apart in their own little way. And really unless someone is wearing hooker boots then i dont think anyone will even notice
Post # 8
Nobody will notice, I gave my BM’s the option when it came to shoes. As long as they are silver and dress appropriate, it doesn’t matter what height. I would much rather they each feel good in what they are wearing than force them to wear something they will be miserable in.
Post # 9
MrsKing212: I don’t think anyone will notice. I let my girls choose their own shoes (all I requested was silver) and they all wore varying heights (then again, my dresses were floor length).
Post # 10
No one will notice! I had long dresses but my girls are wore whatever color and height. I was recently a bridesmaid and we were told to pick any cream or nude shoes. In pictures no one can tell and I doubt any guests noticed either.
Post # 11
- Wedding: September 2014 - Dallas, TX
No one will notice. My girls are in short dresses and I’m letting them all pick whatever shoes they want as long as they are nude.
Post # 12
Even if people notice, they won’t care. I told my girls to pick any black heel they wanted and any black dress they had as long as it was dressy and knee length. It turned out great!
Post # 13
I have a bridesmaid who never wears dresses (as in this will be the 3rd time ever that her husband has ever seen her in a dress including when they got married in the 10 years they’ve been together) and she certainly doesn’t wear heels- I’m already pushing her comfort level with the dress. Another wears really high platform heels when she wears them. I’d rather them be comfortable with what they’re wearing and not fall on their faces bc I made them wear something else. They can’t blame me for the shoes they choose to wear
Post # 14
- Wedding: November 2014 - 11/15/14-Vineyard
I will say…I have been to hundreds of weddings over the years and I can NOT tell you one wear I remembered what shoes they are wearing.
Let them wear what they want.
Post # 15
I let mine pick theirs; my only requirement aside from color was they couldn’t be more than 2.5″ high because I would be wearing flats and I am already the shortest of all of them! Everyone thought it was really cute! I also bought them mismatched jewelry! The horror!