Post # 1
I’m looking for a little advice/help.
I have 2 bridesmaids, officially, but also 3 other friends who I would really like to get involved in the whole wedding planning/fun (assuming they want to of course!).
I’m looking for ideas on what we can all do together/what things I can ask them to do before & on the day.
Basically, what are you actually asking your bridesmaids/friends to help you out with?
Post # 3
They don’t really have to do anything but get the dress and show up. That’s what mine are doing. If you want (and they want to–do not make them feel obligated) they can help you put together invitations, programs, you name it.
Post # 4
Same here. They just need to show up, drink some mimosas with me and keep me from freaking out. Outisde of the day of, their only jobs were to plan my bridal shower/bachelorette (they gave themselves this to do though, i didnt care if i had either) and to get black shoes.
Post # 5
My girls won’t *have* to do anything, but we’re making our own invites and whatnot so I might see if anyone wants to help out and bond and have a girly/crafty evening when we put them together.
Post # 6
My girls don’t really have any obligations, other than show up and make sure my dress isn’t tucked into my panties or I have toilet paper stuck to my shoe. If they lived a little closer and really wanted to help, I have bows to tie on invitations, favors to pack into boxes with sparkly basket fill, and Out of Town bags to assemble. But they don’t live close, so I planned for time to do them myself, and Mr. 5642 has been unexpectedly helpful as well!
Post # 7
mine did the same – bougth the dress and show up. they hung out with me in the morning to get ready and we ate brunch and drank mimosas!
I would have perhaps liked some shopping buddies, help with crafts and maybe hauling some crap around. but overall I was happy!
Post # 8
before the wedding they didn’t do much for the wedding b/c my moh was oot and i don’t work so i figured i could do it myself. they planned the bachelorette party and shower, and of course had to buy their dresses. they did help me with my centerpieces b/c i did them the day before and we wanted them done quickly so we could go have fun. i have been in weddings where we help the bride do a lot of diy things like favors and invites.
Post # 9
The day of my girls are helping me decorate the venue. I have to set up everything myself and the girls all offered to help so I was very pleased. OF course they are also doing the typical thing of planning my bachelorette party. They have done shopping with me and been a sounding board on ideas. A few of the girls keep asking for specific jobs so one of them helped me find rates on hotels and transportation. They also offered to do some of my errands and called different places that we needed to get quotes from
I think it depends on you and how much they want to be involved. I didn’t really say if you are in the wedding you have to do this and this. Instead most of them asked and it has been nice to not have to do it all alone.
Post # 10
Oh man…I am my sister’s Maid/Matron of Honor and I am planning her wedding. Me and her other 3 BMs planned and threw the bridal shower, are in the process of planning the bachelorette party. One of the BMs, myself, my sister, and her Fiance hot glued flowers for centerpieces. I did the invites and most of the stuff for the reception.
It just depends on the proximity and relationship with the bride and how comfortable the bride is with asking for help. I will say BMs are not REQUIRED to do anything other that wear the dress and show up…but it doesn’t hurt to ask for their assistance if you need it. The worst thing that can happen is they say no.
Post # 11
None of mine are in town, so they are just showing up 🙂 I might need help the day before, my mom and I are planning on DIY-ing the centerpieces, so we’ll need some extra hands. Other than that, they listen to me go on and on about the wedding, and de-stress me!
Post # 12
My wedding is next September so I have plenty of time to figure out what they will want to help with and what they wont. I am planning a lot of DIY projects so Im hoping they will be able to help with that a little. Not because I want to be a slave driver but bc I think doing some craft sessions with the girls would be a lot more fun than doing it myself. They are already wanting to know what ideas and plans (as I have been in research mode for 2 months) are brewing in my head and what they can do to help. I think I have some winners in my group of BMs!