- 5 years ago
- Wedding: April 2013
Ok let me start off by saying my FI is my best friend. I don’t really like friends. They annoy me. I like to be alone, or with my FI, with the occasional visit with a close friend, or catching up on the phone. But in general, I like being left alone. I do my own thing, It’s just my nature.
I have 3 friends, S since 8th grade, J for 4 years and a relatively new 6 month friend, K.
S is my bff, were alike, in the aspect of how we like to go about our friendships. We’ve lived together, and can not talk to each other for months at a time, yet when we talk or hang out its the best. Which i LOVE!
J is very clingy and demanding. Which is why we havent talked in about 4 months, and she’s almost stalking me to get me to talk to her again. There’s more to the story, but basically her dramatics, manipulations and crap make me want to never talk to her again. I know if I call her she’s gonna wanna talk about it, and she’ll want to live up my butt hole. I don’t want that, but I would feel bad for 1. not inviting her to the wedding (which i havent decided on wether i’ll do or not), and if I do, she’ll have a issue with 2. me not wanting her in the wedding party. I’m basically only inviting her (if I do) because I feel obligated since were long time friends. ETA: One reason she started acting like a but case is cause I was hanging out with K one day when she randomly popped up at my house unannounced.
K is also clingy. She pretty much invited herself to be a bridesmaid. I can be very blunt, and i know how sensitive she is, so I haven’t told her yes….but I also havent told her no. I’ve been hanging out with her the most in the ast 6 months because we do modeling and acting gigs together. I wuld hate to mke her feel like she’s less of my friend just cause we havent known each other for that long, cause we do get along and have lots of fun together and she is very ready and willing to help with everything.
S, she probably doesnt care if she’s in the wedding (She’s like me, doesnt sweat stupid stuff). But I really want her to be in the wedding cause she’s awesome and my BEST friend.
I want my sister to be in the wedding. She’ll be here to help me with everything I need, before and on the wedding day. So I know I’ll have the hep and support I need.
Should I just go without bridesmaids all together? I feel like I like this option the most. I wont have to deal with anyone bothering me about what to do, where to be, etc. And everyone will feel equally left out. lol
I could honstly not care less if J and K even showed up. I just wanna be with, and focus my energy on Me, my FI, my family, and S. I know they would try to be my sidekick for the day but I have that covered. Can I invite J and K to the wedding without them trying to make it about them?
I guess I’m asking, to do what I want, and be the bitch (come off as one for not cadering to everyone’s sensitive feelings), or do what they’d like and be annoyed and frustrated on my wedding day trying to get the two of them to leave me alone?
HELP! I’m so confused.