- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2011
This is my first time posting. I’m trying not to be a “bridezilla” but everything’s so stressful right now, I’m just not sure what to do…
I got engaged in February, asked my two best friends from high school to be BMs and they happily accepted. One lives in Los Angeles now, one in South Carolina, so I don’t see them that often anymore but I figured it’s ok.
Then, in April/May, I started hanging out with this girl I knew through one of my best guy friends. We got along great, were hanging out all the time, and I asked her to be a BM too, which she also happily accepted.
Here comes the issues: the BM in California hasn’t been picking up her phone AT ALL, hasn’t texted me back in months, and I don’t have any other way of contacting her. The one in South Carolina hasn’t been answering my texts or facebook messages either. So I have no idea if they’re even coming and I can’t work out any details with them.
The other girl, who lives near me, has caused not one but TWO crazy incidents recently. I brought her to a party where she got drunk and destroyed the homeowner’s property (happened to be the home of my coworker, so now work is totally awkward), and then she went to a festival with my guy friend where she ditched him to go hook up with random people and then renounced their friendship, and told him she no longer wants to take part in the $600 present they’d bought as our wedding gift. Now she says since they’re not friends anymore and since she knows me through him she wants to “cut ties” with all their mutual friends–so I guess she’s no longer my BM, or my friend, or anything.
I’m so confused over all this. I don’t have many close female friends, and FI and I both are only children and have small families. My mom thinks I should just nix the whole bm/gm idea since it’s expensive anyways. I’m not opposed, but my FI wants to have his guys up there.
Sorry for the long rant. Does anyone have any suggestions, ideas, comforting words, valiums (jk)? The wedding is 8 months away and I’m sorta freaking out.