bridesmaids wanted to get their own dresses but they have not… what to do?

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
Hostess
7630 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

I would send out an email to everyone asking how it’s going. Mention that you could change the color if there’s a problem finding dresses. You’re still two months out, don’t freak out yet.

Post # 4
Hostess
7630 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

I would send out an email to everyone asking how it’s going. Mention that you could change the color if there’s a problem finding dresses. You’re still two months out, don’t freak out yet.

Post # 5
Member
141 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Something like:

“Hey guys, two months left! I am really excited and I just wanted to check on how the search for the dresses was going. Has anyone had any luck finding a grey dress? I realize it might have been a little difficult to track them down so I want to get your opinions. Is it easier for you all if I change the color or if I just send you guys a dress to order? Let me know what you think!”

Something light and interested in their needs won’t come off as Bridezilla-ish. Convey the point but keep everyone involved and see how it goes from there.

Post # 6
Member
164 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@yellowballoon:  If you are a good researcher, find some gray dresses in a variety of prices online that you approve of and send them to the bridesmaids.  Gray could be hard to find, but they also might be overwhelmed by the time/effort to find one.

I’d say something like, “So I’ve heard from a few that it’s proving difficult to find gray dresses.  I did a little prelim research to help out.  Here are some that I’ve found: link, link, link.

Can’t wait for the big day.  Just _____ weeks left!”

 

You’d be able to give them some options and remind them of the deadline without seeming bridezilla-y.   If you’re worried that it is still a little too pushy, ask your MOH to send it on your behalf.

Post # 9
Member
3084 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@yellowballoon:  I don’t get why they are finding it so hard to find a grey dress. You gave them MONTHS to find a grey dress. I can go to the mall and find a grey dress within 20 minutes. It just seems like they aren’t trying very hard and you are being more than reasonable.

 

Tell them your wedding is 3 months away and you want them to find all of their dresses by mid-August. You can even provide them links with where they can get a grey dress. I mean really, they can go into any bridal store pick out a dress and then pick the shade of grey they want.

Don’t change your vision because they are being lazy.

Post # 10
Member
2826 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@yellowballoon:  Hey date twin. No BM dresses either, huh? My drop dead date for ordering has actually already passed and no one bought a dress. On 5 months notice, 2 people couldn’t buy a dress. I gave instructions, links and they just…didn’t step up. As far as I know I will not have any bridesmaids for this reason. 

If you think that sending an email asking more questions (do you guys need help? Do you want me to change the color?) will helpful, then go for it. However if it will, as I suspect, just create even more questions and lead to even more confusion–then I recommend you make a decision on a dress, send them a link and provide an ordering deadline. 66 days to go!  

Post # 11
Member
6273 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

tell them they have until X day to find a dress or you will be selecting the dress for them.

 

Post # 12
Member
1179 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I just asked my MOH something similar. She is the only one getting her dress made (so she felt she had more time) So I asked if she bought her material yet? She said she will be buying it this weekend. I have 38 days to go…I will be calling her all weekend long to make sure she buys it!

Post # 13
Member
449 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@yellowballoon:  

@Overjoyed:    yay date triplets! For my ladies im just picking a dress and buying it for them. Eell acyually my MOH is awesome and buying her oen but the other girls will have a harder time ( new mom and college student) if it gets too close and you’re super concerned just get something  for yhem

Post # 15
Member
2325 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@yellowballoon:  Wow that’s amazing that they all got a dress within 4 days! I sent out a breezy email just like the suggestions and got zero response and still got accused of being too focused on my wedding. Glad it worked out better for you!

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