Post # 1
I’m pretty lucky that I have bridesmaids that are always asking what they can do to help me with the wedding – I’m having a hard time coming up with stuff for them to do, though! Of course, I’d love to get any help possible, but a lot of the stuff we’re doing now (choosing songs for the ceremony, finalizing flower ideas, menu tasting) is stuff they can’t really help all that much with. I of course want them to feel involved and don’t want to give the impression that I don’t trust/need them.
What did you have your bridesmaids help you with? I also don’t want to go from zero to sixty and then give them too much to do that they’ll resent me for it, haha. I’m probably going to ask for help with favors and maybe with stuffing invitation envelopes, but other than that, I can’t really think of anything! Suggestions?
Post # 3
Ahh! I feel the same way!!! I also have a BM who I will show something, that we have already made a decision on, and she will say oh, I like that, but what about this. So frustrating.
Post # 5
My bridesmaids are the best! They threw me a surprise shower, organized my Vegas bachelorette party, one made my Save the Dates, one made my ceremony programs, and my MOH paid for my photobooth. I’m sure there are more, but that’s all I can think of at the moment. Also, I never asked them to do anything, they just did it. I think the best role they can play is just being there or lending an ear if u need to vent 🙂
Post # 6
you should totally see if one of your bridesmaids works at a print shop and can bang out your envelopes & all that nonsense FO FREE! wooot wooooot!
Post # 7
@chrissyb464: The only thing I asked of my BMs was to agree on a dress, buy it, buy shoes, pick whatever jewellery they want to wear. I’m getting their hair and makeup done for them. My cousin declined being a BM due to being very pregnant, but she’s putting together all of our bouquets and she’s organising my hens day. The girls all ask if there’s anything they can do but right now it’s all little things.
Just ask for help with invites, organising the showers/parties, and little things, like if you’re making your own centrepieces or something. Any help is good help 🙂
Post # 8
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
@chrissyb464: I would say you really don’t need to give them much to do. Honestly. they’re probably just trying to be nice, not actually wanting to “work” for you. My BMs always were offering help, and I would just say, Just keep me calm the day before and the day of the wedding! Them spending time and money on the shower, dress, gift was more than enough.
Post # 9
I absolutely adore my BMs. Each time I mention something that I’m dreading to do later down the road (assemble/address invites, make centerpieces, etc.) they not only volunteer their help, but also their husbands’ help too! I don’t feel like I ask them to do much. Throughout the process, I’d send them stuff to keep them in the loop, and now that the dresses have been bought, there really isn’t much more for them to do until invite/centerpiece time. They are planning a shower for me, and they have taken into account my personality and the fact that I don’t like parties…I really don’t know what’s going to happen with that.
I think the most important thing of all, and what I love them most for, is that they are both ready to hear my vent if I ever need.
For their gifts, I bought them individualized tumblers, but am still look for something else to add. I was going to get them each a pashmina since my wedding will be in February, but the dresses came with a beautiful shawl. I know they don’t need me to get them anything, but I want to do more for them than just paying for their day of hair/make up, and nails.