Post # 1
I was just wondering what everyone’s bridesmaids are paying for?
I was planning on buying their dresses, and then getting them to supply their own shoes and pay for their own hair and make-up.
Is this fair??
Post # 3
@miss_blondie86: Very fair! My girls are paying for their own dresses. I told them if they wanted hair and make-up I would provide someone but they had to pay for it. And I bought their shoes
Post # 4
@miss_blondie86: That is more than fair. My girls are paying for dress, they are able to pick there own shoes, hair and option of paying for make-up or DIY. They are also paying for travel and hotel. I am giving them jewelry as their gifts.
Post # 5
Mine bought their dresses (but since I let them pick there own dresses they both bought them for about $30 at H&M and JcPennies) and bought there shoes. I am planning on providing thier jewelry, and as long as I can afford to pay for their hair and make up I plan on doing that as well.
Post # 6
I think that is very fair!
I’m planning on paying for their dresses & giving them jewelry.
Post # 7
When I was Bridesmaid or Best Man a few times before also so here’s a few more senarios. Shoes for all of them did not matter. Any combo can go, i think it just depends on budget. Entering in, I expected as a bm to pay for everything myself, so anything paid for was just a nice perk.
1 – I paid for dress, hair/mu was paid for by bride
2 – Dress, hair/mu paid for by bride
3 – Dress, hair/mu paid for by bride
4 – I paid for dress, bride paid for either hair or make up, I wanted the other too and paid for it
For my wedding – the girls reused their dress so no cost to them, they paid for own hair/mu. I wanted to cover since I always had mine covered, but I figured it was fair since they didnt have to buy a dress. And it was optional also.
Post # 8
Mine are buying their dresses and shoes, and they do not have to pay for hair and make-up as I am not requiring it. They are more than welcome to DIY it or go with the team I am booking. I would have loved to pay for everything, but with 8 girls it just isn’t feasible!
Post # 9
We’re giving them £100 each (around $160) towards their outfits. I’m not requesting that they wear anything specific, it has to be not too short/low-cut, but otherwise I don’t mind what colour/style they choose, so we felt this was fair; they should be able to get a nice dress for what we’re giving them, but if they want to spend more, they can, and they can keep it and wear it again. None of them would want their hair or make-up doing, and are great at doing their own. so they’ll be doing that. We’ll then obv be paying for bouquets for each of them.
I think that if you are dictating anything specific, you should pay personally. So if I was demanding that they had a certain hair-style, and they couldn’t do their own, or professional make-up, or specific shoes/dresses, I’d pay for those things. So in your case, if you’re insisting on certain shoes, I do think you should pay; but if you’re happy for them to wear whatever shoes they want, then I think it’s fine for them to pay. Likewise with the hair.
Post # 10
Very fair. Mine are buying their dresses. They can do hair and Make up if the are willing to pay for it. I am gifting them their jewerly.
Post # 11
Mine are paying for dresses and shoes. They will also have to pay for hair and makeup if they choose to do that. I’m not requiring it, so I’m not paying for it. They are also paying for their travel costs. I’m giving them their jewelry for the wedding. I also have some other gifts for them that aren’t wedding related.
Post # 12
My girls bought their own dresses, and they have to get silver or gray closed-toe shoes of their own choice. I gave them the option of getting their hair done, but I told them they would have to pay. Two of them opted to do it.
I am paying for their jewelry, fascinators, and wraps (because January is cold!).
Post # 13
My bridesmaid paid for their dress $135 and they could wear their own shoes but 2 of them chose to buy new shoes (cheapies for under $25) and they did their own hair.
Post # 14
My BMs are paying for their dresses, though I did allow them a LOT of say in what they would wear, they’re all wearing Alfred Angelo but none are in the same dress. I told them I want nice silver shoes but most of them have those and I have a couple pairs I can lend out too. I’m not requiring anything special for hair and makeup but a couple of them have said they want their hair done, but they’ll be paying for it. I really don’t have a lot of requirements so aside from the dress, they really don’t have to spend anything else. And all of them live in town so travel is a non-issue.
ETA: I also told them that instead of giving them Bridesmaid or Best Man gifts, I’d like to contribute a little to their dresses, which they all were happy with, so I won’t be getting them “gifts” I’ll just help them a little financially.
Post # 15
My situation was similar to some that have been posted. They purchased their dresses. I asked them all to wear black shoes, with the hope that if someone didn’t want to buy new shoes, she *probably* already had a pair of black shoes.
Hair and makeup were optional; some got it done, and some did it themselves. Those who got it done paid for it.
I purchased their jewelry (necklace and earrings) along with their other Bridesmaid or Best Man gifts.
Post # 16
I paid for dress, hair and makeup but they got their own shoes (or just wore ones they had) and jewellery if they wanted to wear any. But, they were coming from a long distance to be in the wedding so had to pay for those expenses.