- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
Currently my best friend since I was 8 is my Maid/Matron of Honor. Fiance sisters are two of the bridesmaids and so is my brothers gf (I’m close to them all.)
Fiance has 6 groomsmen and I am trying desperately to narrow down my last two.
I’m an encore bride (married at 21, divorced at 25, starting dating Fiance shortly after and will remarry at 28.) My first wedding was small and my party was the same Maid/Matron of Honor and my two cousins who I grew up with (mostly did all holidays together until my parents divorced.)
I was in one cousins wedding two years ago, and I’m in the other’s this fall. However, we’re not that close. We probably see each other 2-4 times a year even though we live in the same town. They very much do their own thing and we do ours.
My dilemma starts because everyone expects me to include them again (they’re family, they were in my last, I’m in theirs, etc.) However, I moved schools and states my last two years of college right after I got divorced and moved in with two girls. I had never met them before and they were AMAZING and we became very close friends.
With my cousins, I know they’ll be there for the big things like showers and such, but won’t really help with the little details. My college roommates, however, will be in the thick of it as much as they can helping with the DIY projects.
My gut says just ask my roommates because frankly, they are who I want. I just am afraid of hurting my cousin’s (and aunt’s) feelings by not asking them.
Who do I go with? And if I ask my roommates, do I tell my cousins why? Do I just leave it alone? Should I ask the other pair (whoever they are) to be greeters?
For what it’s worth, Fiance groomsmen are 5 friends from college and my bro, and our ushers are his two cousins that he grew up with but doesn’t see much now.
Honestly, wedding planning has been an absolute breeze but this has really gotten me hung up.