(Closed) Bridesmaids??? Who should I ask?!

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
Member
32 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I have five bridesmaids, although I initally only had two.

I live in Ontario, but am getting married in BC (where I’m from). Initially I had just asked my cousin to be my MOH, and my oldest friend to be a BM. They both live in BC. I have three girls who I spend a lot of time with here in Ontario, but I didn’t want to ask them to be BMs because I didn’t want to inconvenience them because they were already flying across the country. But as time went on, I decided to shove my anxiety aside and just ask them. And they all agreed! It was silly of me not to ask them in the first place, because I know if we had of been getting married in Ontario, I wouldn’t have had any second thoughts about asking.

I say…ask your friends in Alberta! I haven’t expected or asked any of my BMs or my MOH to do anything, and don’t plan on doing so even as the big fluffy white day gets closer. If they are your friends and you want them by your side, ASK!

 

Post # 5
Member
32 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@princess_r:  The dress thing was a anxiety inducing for me, too. My three girls here could go together with me, but my MOH and other bridesmaid were on their own. So I picked a brand, length, and colour, and asked them to each pick their own style.

My MOH went first (with my mom), and she picked one. I then went with my three here, and they ended up liking the same dress (different from MOH, though, which was fine). It made it super easy to tell the last bridesmaid exactly which one to get – I even looked up stores in Vancouver for her so she knew where to go.

As for the parties…wish I had some insight on that, but I don’t! Good luck.

 

Post # 6
Member
8475 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@princess_r:  I’m having a small wedding party and both of my girls are over 2000 miles away (they’re in California while I’m in North Carolina).  I think it just depends on what you expect.  I told my girls they could pick their own dresses and shoes.  I decided against them having matching dresses since they look so different and have such different tastes and body types.  They’re using black dresses they already have, which made it really simple.  We’re not doing a bachelor/bachelorette party, but my girls are coming out early and staying with me in my house so we’ll have plenty of girl time.  I think it’s more important to have the people you care about standing by your side than to worry about what every detail of the wedding looks like.

In addition, we have all decided to keep in touch with pictures, videos, etc via facebook.  If you don’t want everyone to have matching dresses, I think the distance isn’t a problem; especially since the internet makes it so easy to stay in touch.  If you want them there, there’s always a way to make it work.

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