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Bridesmaids with parasols instead of bouqets..is it appropriate for a church?

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    tammyt112    May 29, 2010  

    Im not Catholic and never went to church but the FI is. I've decided to have my BMs carry parasols instead of bouqets to save money and also its very classy as well! It just dawned on me about how it would look in the church when the bridesmaids walk down the aisle with them.  Is this normal? Is it appropriate? I've seen many pics of wedding parties with parasols but none of them were in a church, just outside pics! Please help!

     
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    ClairDarling    August 14, 2010   San Diego

    since parasols are to keep the sun off, i think it would seem rather odd if they carried them in a church.  if you want to save money, perhaps they could carry a single stem of a really awesome flower - peony, garden rose, hydrangea, verbernum, etc.

     
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    Mrs. Spring    May 10, 2009   California

    I would ask the church before you make any major plans.  Some churches would probably allow it, but some might not. 

     
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    MissAsB    June 6, 2009   Married in CO, Living in AL

    I'm not sure if it would be allowed since it's sort of like having an umbrella inside.  Plus as a Catholic church, the mass is probably more traditional than other religious ceremonies would be.

     
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    tammyt112    May 29, 2010  

    thanks! Havent even thought of asking the church about it and good thing I havent ordered the parasols yet! 

     
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    artbee    February 28, 2010  

    i might feel weird about it, just because having umbrellas open inside is a no no. and like others said, parasols are usually for outdoor use so it might look a little odd being inside.

     
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    Miss Sapphire    December 2009   Seattle

    Most churches don't allow you to wear a hat, so I think all bets would be off with the parasols.  

     
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    rainbow    January 1, 2011   Tampa

    I love parasols, but I definitely think they'd look out of place indoors. I agree with doing a single stem of something.

     
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    JoesWifey    May 24, 2009   NYC/Wedding in Indiana

    I also agree that a parasol would look odd indoors, church or otherwise. Maybe a fancy hand fan or something instead?

     
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    grace8367    September 6, 2009   Chicago

    Most catholic churches are pretty strict but even if yours isn't I think parasols will look odd indoors.  I would probably opt for a low-cost floral option- carnations and babies breath look awesome when bunched together and might be affordable enough to allow you to do them instead of the parasols.

     
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    ClairDarling    August 14, 2010   San Diego

    plus its super bad luck to open an  umbrella indoors :)

     
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    bamm    June 5th 2010/August 15th 2010   Seoul

    I'm not Ethiopian Orthodox, so I don't know a whole lot about this tradition, but when I was in my home Orthodox parish we had some Ethiopians who attended church.  During Pascha (Easter), we would use a liturgical umbrella they had given the parish priest for the processions.  Here are some pictures of liturgical umbrellas:

    http://wapedia.mobi/en/Umbrella?t=3.

    http://www.chicagodiocese.org/images/StHerman08/13.JPG

    So, like I said, I am not very familiar with this tradition, but there are some churches where umbrella-type things are used.  Also, as to the comment about how people shouldn't wear hats in church, in many churches women have to/are strongly encouraged to cover their hair, and Orthodox priests sometimes wear a special hat during services. This is not to say that the church you are getting married in will allow parasols (and certainly the parasol and liturgical umbrella have different meanings), but just to say that the traditions of the Christian Church are very diverse.

    Perhaps if you are not allowed to use parasols inside the church, you could still get them for pictures/outside?

     
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    verosara    March 27, 2010   LA, California

    If you would still want the parasols in the pictures maybe you can have them in a nice tin bucket by the door or exit so you can take pictures right away without having to take them inside.  I agree with many of the posts above me, they don't belong indoors. 

     
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    noritake22    March 31, 2011   Seattle

    I am going to have my girls carry fans instead of bouquets.

     
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    TheCheapBride    March 28, 2010   Southern California

    I'm having an outdoor wedding.  My bridesmaids are carrying simple bouquets, but I'm giving parasols as wedding favors to my guests.  I just hope it doesn't rain that day.  Crossing my fingers...toes...eyes...and everything else.  My florist is also using parasols to decorate my reception venue.  Will post my pictures after the wedding.  The big day is less than 3 weeks away!!! Yikes!!!!

    By the way, I purchased my parasols from www.jadetime.com for less than $4 each. The quality is great!

    I also bought some samples from other places online, but the quality just isn't there.  One of them broke before I even openned it. Since I'm giving these as party favors...I want my guests to be able to use them again. 

     
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    TrishaDean    July 24, 2004   San Francisco Bay Area

    Another thought that may lean you toward using a simple stem of one great flower (ie: cala lily, even a great colored rose that match your wedding colors) instead of the parasols is that when the parasols are opened in the church (if the church allows it you should ask as stated above - they could be pretty strict about this) and the girls are holding them, it may really affect your photos. It may change the lighting on the girls, and even the two of you. They could also block the photographers view of you and your man and those are really the most important shots!!

    If the church does allow it and you really want to move forward with the parasols make sure you let your photographer know before hand so he/she can prep for extra lighting or to scope out the church for better angles to get the good shots!

    Good luck!

     

     
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    bellenga    July 31, 2010   Georgia

    I think it would be unusual having umbrellas inside a church and there is the old luck thing too..who wants an omen of bad luck at the wedding?

    Imho, they're best for outdoor summer weddings for keeping the bm's lovely as cool shady ladies!  :)

     

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