- 4 years ago
- Wedding: August 2014
I’m getting married in three weeks and I’m having some issues with my bridesmaids.
I would like to think I’m pretty laid back as a bride, but I’m sure everyone says that. I didn’t really want a wedding, I wanted to elope, but my fiance insistsed and this is really important to him so we at least went with a small wedding and I insisted on a small bridal party (4). Everyone gets a long so that’s good, his groomsmen actually have the most drama, but I feel like I’m kind of getting walked all over a bit.
When we went shopping for dresses I had a style in mind which they all liked, we looked at several and they picked the one they liked. My fiance wanted an aqua blue as our main wedding color so they picked which shade of light blue they liked best. For shoes later, my mother in law had asked if they were all getting the same shoes and one my bridesmaids insisted that they didn’t need to because their dresses are long. I figured this wasn’t a big deal so I said maybe to try and at least get the same color or style, like all of them wearing a closed toe or open toe in similar colors incase their feet show. I don’t know what ever came of this because a few mentioned looking and the one that brought it up hasn’t mentioned it since.
This same bridesmaid insisted we all go to her salon for hair and make up that day, I was hesitant because I’ve got very thick and long hair and I’ve had the same stylist for 6 years that I really like, but she inisisted that it would be great and then we could all be together so I agreed. I was told then it would be $100 for hair and a make up, a few weeks ago when I went to book my trial I was told that it would cost a dollar per minute for the trial. This concerned me and I asked how much was it going to be the actual event and she qouted me $350 plus tip! I was stunned! She had told the other bridesmaids that there’s would be about $60 and in reality it’s $160, which most of them aren’t happy about either. However they all decided it was too late and would figure something out. I absolutely can’t afford it, I’m getting my hair cut and colored the week before and my nails done, plus paying for alterations and everything else, there’s just no way I could come up with triple the amount that close. The bridesmaid who had insisted on all this told me it wasn’t that big of a deal and just to set aside money every paycheck. So I couldn’t get in with my regular stylist after all this being so close and I had to go to a salon I’ve never been to with someone I’ve never had do my hair, I also won’t be with my bridal party the morning of the wedding because they will all be there. It really bummed me out a lot.
So fast forward and I bought them their gifts a week ago, I got them customized kimono tobes in their favorite colors with hangers with their names on them in the wire part. I figured it was something they could always have instead of something that says “bridesmaid” on it or whatever. After this my one bridesmaid, the same that insisted on the shoes and the salon, had mentioned I’m supposed to buy them their jewelry. I’m completely wedding stupid, as I mentioned I was not the little girl that dreamed of her wedding day I figured it’d be on a beach somewhere, so I was freaking out! I didn’t have the extra money after spending a couple hundred on kimonos for jewelry. I relayed this to all of them and appologized, the other three all said it wasn’t a big deal and that they didn’t know that either (since this I’ve found out it’s not true and some brides do it but some don’t). So I told them I have figured on them wearing pearl necklaces and that it didn’t have to be anything fancy. They were all fine with this and have been sending me pictures of things they have or ideas since. So I facebook messaged them a few options I found on amazon and etsy, one was $15 for the set and the other $20. No one is talking to me now. My maid of honor was talking to me and I brought it up and she said the other bridesmaid is insisting on wearing her jewelry from another friends wedding (that she knows I didn’t like) that she was in recently and told everyone to just wear whatever too. I told my maid of honor I’d told her I didn’t want her to wear it (especially because the bride from the other wedding is our mutual friend’s wife and she got quite competitive and mean about the two of us both getting married the same summer), and my maid of honor said that she’s probably going to because she told her she didn’t want to get anything else. So apparently I have no idea what my bridesmaids are wearing or doing for the wedding, other than the dress I was present for.
Am I being rediculous? Have I gone bridezilla?