Bridesmaids/Groomsmen gifts? How much are YOU spending per person?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: How much money are you spending on gifts per person?
    $0-$50 : (20 votes)
    34 %
    $51-$100 : (26 votes)
    45 %
    $100-$150 : (6 votes)
    10 %
    $150++++ : (6 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    i’m not sure how much the groomsmen’s gifts were. i let my husband handle that. he gave them engraved flasks. i spent about $40 on each of my girls. they got personalized tote bags ($10 each), wedding day survival kits (maybe another $10 each), and then their “real” gifts (they each got something different) were about $20-$25 each. 

    Post # 4
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    We spent approximately $50/pp on the bridesmaid and groomsmen gifts.  I’m not a big fan of giving/receiving jewelry to wear on the wedding day as the gift since it’s rarely ever worn again, and same with paying for getting their hair done.  I’m certain that most bridesmaids like to have a keepsake of some kind that they can hold onto and/or use in the future 🙂

    Post # 5
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    11300 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I think I spent around $60 each on my bridesmaids, and $15 on the groomsmen. My bridesmaids have been fantastic and very helpful/supportive, but the groomsmen haven’t even asked about the wedding at all, so…

    Post # 6
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Spent $50-75 per BM (personal different gifts for each). The groomsmen got $100-200 gifts each one something different to suit their tastes.

    Post # 7
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    4827 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

    I had 7 so I couldn’t afford to get them a lot. I certainly wasn’t going to waste my money on those cheese=y robes or any shit with their (or my!) name on it (totes, wineglasses) that they could never use again.

    I got them handmade fabric clutches from Thailand Etsy, stud earrings they have all worn since, a classic silver frame (with a photo of us they can replace), lip gloss, Skinny Girl margarita, and tons of snacks and drinks.

    And made these bags:

    Post # 8
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I think you should base it on the overall spending for the wedding and how much they are spending to be in the wedding. My girls chose their own dresses from a particular line (Dessy but also the related with pantone colors) so had a range of prices they could pay but averaged about $180. The men’s tux rental is $180. So FI and I spent about $180 on each on a nice gift.

    Post # 9
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    677 posts
    Busy bee

    We’re still in the early stages but we’ve already talked about $30-40/BM or GM, since it’s coming out of our pockets instead of the wedding budget his parents have given us, and SO’s currently out of work.

    Post # 10
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    @MrsEME:  I think how much you spend per person really depends on the number of attendants you have and your budget.  Obviously you want to show them that you appreciate them, but you don’t want to break the bank!  I’m a fan of thoughtful gifts that you know people will appreciate…and handmade items always show you put a lot of effort/thought into it without necessarily spending a ton!  

    I’m doing wristlets for each girl (with her initial embroidered on it), handmade earrings, and a mini mimosa kit (mini champagne bottle, oj and a decorated champagne flute).  FI is using a glass cutter to cut old wine bottles and turn them into whiskey glasses, which he will etch their initials into using etching cream.  He’s also getting each guy a set of whiskey soap stones, and a bottle of whiskey.  

    Post # 11
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I put together a goody bag (~$12) with a bottle of liquor (~$20), nailpolish to match their dress ($8), cheap nail kit ($3), nice hand lotion (TJMaxx ~$6), and a magazine personalized to their taste ($5-12).

     

    So about $55-60 each. The idea was to give them stuff to relax and not stuff they “had” to wear day of. (I didn’t require them to wear the nail polish – its just a tricky color dress to match, so if they didn’t want nude or french or something simple, they didn’t have to worry about finding the right color at the salon.)

     

    I defintely didn’t want to engrave anything with their title (aka, bridesmaid) because that doesn’t define them, and won’t get re-used. I also avoided monograms, since none of my girls are married yet and only one is engaged.

     

    EDIT: I had three girls and a guy. The guy didn’t get nail stuff. ;D Three did travel a good distance, and had those expenses, but I didn’t have a large budget. The point was that they know I cared and appreciated them.

    Post # 13
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    1590 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I just have two maids of honor and I’m aiming for $150 pp.

    Post # 14
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Base it on what you can afford. I went higher with mine since they’re all driving/flying to attend my wedding. I think the most important thing though is a heartfelt personally hand written card to each bridesmaid. But I may be more sentimental about such things.

    Post # 15
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    That is a great post, that I will use as my argument for having less than more bridesmaids (becaue my MIL is PUSHNG me to choose her favorite son’s girlfriend). I am not gonna spend money on someone I met few times and that I have no relationship with. MIL would have nothing to say back, I hope!!!!!

    Post # 16
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    @MrsEME:  I’m anticipating a BM dress cost of around $150 and so I would like to spend about that much on each of my six bridesmaids.  I guess my thinking is to sort of “reimburse” them with gifts lol.  Plus, I just LOVE giving gifts in general so I get excited thinking about what to give them.

    Right now I’m thinking that their gifts will be: robes from Plum Pretty Sugar, Origami Owl living lockets, personalized hangers, some Gertrude Hawk or Lindt chocolate, candles from BBW (already bought), and maybe clutches or makeup bags of some sort.  I bought these decorative boxes from Michael’s that look like suitcases, so I’m going to wrap them all up in that with a ribbon and a luggage tag.

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