Post # 1
I am wondering how much is appropriate- or “enough” for lack of a better way to put it for gifts for BM/GM? I don’t have an unlimited budget, but I want to make sure they all know they are appreciated for being with us on our day. So far, we have gotten the GM each a Swiss Army knife (larger size). They are woodem handles and we got thier last names engraved on them. Those were about $40/each.
For the BMs, I have gotten them each matching necklaces that I think are pretty cool. Those were $20/each.
Obviously, I want to get them more…..I’m just wondering how much I should spend? And does it count as a gift if I pay for them to get thier hair done (I am not asking for anyone to have thier hair done a certain way- or done by a pro at all- I know they all WANT thier hair done- but it’s not a requirement)…..any tips/advice/ideas are welcome!
Post # 3
i’m not sure how much the groomsmen’s gifts were. i let my husband handle that. he gave them engraved flasks. i spent about $40 on each of my girls. they got personalized tote bags ($10 each), wedding day survival kits (maybe another $10 each), and then their “real” gifts (they each got something different) were about $20-$25 each.
Post # 4
We spent approximately $50/pp on the bridesmaid and groomsmen gifts. I’m not a big fan of giving/receiving jewelry to wear on the wedding day as the gift since it’s rarely ever worn again, and same with paying for getting their hair done. I’m certain that most bridesmaids like to have a keepsake of some kind that they can hold onto and/or use in the future 🙂
Post # 5
I think I spent around $60 each on my bridesmaids, and $15 on the groomsmen. My bridesmaids have been fantastic and very helpful/supportive, but the groomsmen haven’t even asked about the wedding at all, so…
Post # 6
Spent $50-75 per BM (personal different gifts for each). The groomsmen got $100-200 gifts each one something different to suit their tastes.
Post # 7
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
I had 7 so I couldn’t afford to get them a lot. I certainly wasn’t going to waste my money on those cheese=y robes or any shit with their (or my!) name on it (totes, wineglasses) that they could never use again.
I got them handmade fabric clutches from Thailand Etsy, stud earrings they have all worn since, a classic silver frame (with a photo of us they can replace), lip gloss, Skinny Girl margarita, and tons of snacks and drinks.
And made these bags:
Post # 8
I think you should base it on the overall spending for the wedding and how much they are spending to be in the wedding. My girls chose their own dresses from a particular line (Dessy but also the related with pantone colors) so had a range of prices they could pay but averaged about $180. The men’s tux rental is $180. So FI and I spent about $180 on each on a nice gift.
Post # 9
We’re still in the early stages but we’ve already talked about $30-40/BM or GM, since it’s coming out of our pockets instead of the wedding budget his parents have given us, and SO’s currently out of work.
Post # 10
@MrsEME: I think how much you spend per person really depends on the number of attendants you have and your budget. Obviously you want to show them that you appreciate them, but you don’t want to break the bank! I’m a fan of thoughtful gifts that you know people will appreciate…and handmade items always show you put a lot of effort/thought into it without necessarily spending a ton!
I’m doing wristlets for each girl (with her initial embroidered on it), handmade earrings, and a mini mimosa kit (mini champagne bottle, oj and a decorated champagne flute). FI is using a glass cutter to cut old wine bottles and turn them into whiskey glasses, which he will etch their initials into using etching cream. He’s also getting each guy a set of whiskey soap stones, and a bottle of whiskey.
Post # 11
I put together a goody bag (~$12) with a bottle of liquor (~$20), nailpolish to match their dress ($8), cheap nail kit ($3), nice hand lotion (TJMaxx ~$6), and a magazine personalized to their taste ($5-12).
So about $55-60 each. The idea was to give them stuff to relax and not stuff they “had” to wear day of. (I didn’t require them to wear the nail polish – its just a tricky color dress to match, so if they didn’t want nude or french or something simple, they didn’t have to worry about finding the right color at the salon.)
I defintely didn’t want to engrave anything with their title (aka, bridesmaid) because that doesn’t define them, and won’t get re-used. I also avoided monograms, since none of my girls are married yet and only one is engaged.
EDIT: I had three girls and a guy. The guy didn’t get nail stuff. ;D Three did travel a good distance, and had those expenses, but I didn’t have a large budget. The point was that they know I cared and appreciated them.
Post # 12
OK- so I ended up returning te necklaces. Long story short, dresses have been changed and the dresses won’t do well with necklaces.
SO- I went and got them each a Coach wristlet- each a different one to suit thier personality. They don’t HAVE to use them the day of, but they certainly could. And they should all definitely get good use out of them on a regular basis.
And then I think I am going to get them each a sterling silver initial ring- with the initial of their first name- from etsy. Again, not required to wear on the day of, but they will all like them, and are super cute!
Post # 13
I just have two maids of honor and I’m aiming for $150 pp.
Post # 14
Base it on what you can afford. I went higher with mine since they’re all driving/flying to attend my wedding. I think the most important thing though is a heartfelt personally hand written card to each bridesmaid. But I may be more sentimental about such things.
Post # 15
That is a great post, that I will use as my argument for having less than more bridesmaids (becaue my MIL is PUSHNG me to choose her favorite son’s girlfriend). I am not gonna spend money on someone I met few times and that I have no relationship with. MIL would have nothing to say back, I hope!!!!!
Post # 16
@MrsEME: I’m anticipating a BM dress cost of around $150 and so I would like to spend about that much on each of my six bridesmaids. I guess my thinking is to sort of “reimburse” them with gifts lol. Plus, I just LOVE giving gifts in general so I get excited thinking about what to give them.
Right now I’m thinking that their gifts will be: robes from Plum Pretty Sugar, Origami Owl living lockets, personalized hangers, some Gertrude Hawk or Lindt chocolate, candles from BBW (already bought), and maybe clutches or makeup bags of some sort. I bought these decorative boxes from Michael’s that look like suitcases, so I’m going to wrap them all up in that with a ribbon and a luggage tag.