Post # 1
I read about different ratios for bridesmaids vs guests. I think the most recent was 1:30
I guess it makes sense. You don’t want 10 bridesmaids when you only have 50 guests.
When you chose your party, did you think about the ratio? Or did you just pick whoever you wanted to be in it?
Post # 3
It’s been really hard to nail down how many people we are inviting… anywhere from 150-180. I have 3 BM, and FI has 3 GM. I’ve heard this rule before too, but I think people should ask whoever they want in their wedding party.
Post # 4
4 bms, regardless of numbers… inviting about 210, hoping for a final of ca 160.
Post # 5
I’ve heard about that before, but honestly it seems silly to base your wedding party on the number of guests. Out of all the things to worry about……
What if you have 100 guests and 6 really good friends/family members? Would you leave out 1 or 2 close friends just because you don’t have enough guests?! I never understood that one.
That being said… I have 6 BMs and just under 200 guests. So I guess I did it right? I asked all the girls before I put my guest list together though. 🙂
Although I do agree… it might be silly to have 10 BMs for 50 guests.
Post # 6
I have way more bridesmaids than I should, but it’s one of those things where my college friends were always just…a clump. You can’t invite half the clump and not the other half, and I’m not especially closer to one than to another, so I’m having 7 bridesmaids (6 college friends plus FSIL) and 1 MOH, and only MOH and FSIL will stand up with us at the ceremony. FI has 4 boys including 1 best man and my brother, and just my brother and the best man will stand up for the ceremony. They’ll all be part of the procession down the aisle, though.
Or at least that’s the current plan; I haven’t actually asked anyone but my MOH yet!
Post # 7
I didn’t consider it before but it comes out about right. We’re looking at about 175 guests and I have 6BMs.
Post # 8
I didn’t even consider it. FI and I each have 4 people standing up with us. We’re only going to have 60-70 guests at our DW wedding. The only thing I heard about BM numbers is that you shouldn’t have a lot at a DW wedding regardless of how many guests in total you have. Guess we’ll add that one to the list of ettiquette rules we’ve broken lol.
Post # 9
I have 8 total including my bm. I’ve always heard of this ratio but really? My guest count is 100-150
Post # 10
I never heard of this and wouldn’t see how it matters. It’s not like servers to guests where they attend to them but my ratio is 1:15 for bridesmaids to guests.
Post # 11
I think it should have to do more with your friendship dynamics and how many YOU want than a proper ratio.
Me, I had just 1 MOH, for 120ish guests. I would have had trouble picking and ‘leaving people out’ if I went for more.
Post # 12
Ive heard of this “rule” I thought it was 1 for every 50… ultimately I didn’t pay attention to it. I’m having 5BM, MOH and FI is having 4 groomsmen.
Post # 13
Didn’t pay attention to the rule at all 🙂 Ended up with 6 bridesmaids, although I was trying to keep it down to 4. Its hard to limit though!
Post # 14
I’d heard it was around 1 BM/50 guests, but I feel like the trend has been towards more than that. We have 4 regular BMs, 1 jr BM, 2 ushers (one male, one female), and 4 or 5 groomsmen (and a flower girl!), and our wedding will be about 130 people. Guess we went a little over the norm!
Post # 15
That rule’s a bunch of crap. The bride can have as many or as few people stand with her as she’s inclined, the ratios don’t mean anything.
Post # 16
Doesn’t matter – do whatever you want. We’re having 110 guests and no BMs.