Post # 1
My lovely 4 bridesmaids and Maid/Matron of Honor are all out of state…heck I’m out of state. In fact the Maid/Matron of Honor will be out of country as of the 30th. One is in Texas. One in northern California. One in southern California, and the last is in WA state (near me actually).
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Anyway…so I’ve informally asked all of my girls and have gotten firm YESses!! Still need to figure out my formal request. Meanwhile I’m scouring the internet trying to figure out how to handle the Bridesmaid or Best Man dress situation. I could let them all pick their own dresses…and really I like that idea. But my dress is very very understated and I think pretty much any A-line dress has the potential to be more interesting than mine. So I demand their dresses be simple simple simple.
Anyone have any experience coordinating all your BM’s and Maid/Matron of Honor from out of state?
Other things that are gonna come up is the bachelorette party and showers and stuff…none of which is super important but I wouldn’t say no if there was a way to make it happen 🙂
More advice please! I looked at 45 pages of bluefly dresses and I’m totally clueless.
Post # 3
My Maid/Matron of Honor and BMs are all out of state aswell. I didnt think it would worry by but they are also in poor cell reception and it has been a nightmare. I went with simple black dresses for the girls. I bought them off a website that allowed them to be exchanged/refunded if not happy with purchase. Luckily they all fit and the girls loved them as they were simple and elegant.
Post # 4
It is totally doable if you pick a color family or a manufacturer and give them a color/fabric to work with. I was planning to let all my girls pick their own vintage style dress but they surprised me and all like the same one. Since it has to be ordered on-line they can do that themselves. I am a little tiny bit sad as I love the look of mismatched dresses. LOL oh well!
Post # 5
I have 5 BMs total, spread through 3 different countries! Nightmare! Wedding is in Ireland, I got them to get themselves measured and I bought the dresses in DB. The American girls got to try theirs on before I ordered them but the others didn’t. I just got the 2 Irish girls to try theirs when I brought them home, they will need them altered slightly ( I erred on the side of caution and went a little too big instead of a little too small!) English girl still has to try hers!
I ended up having 3 different dresses, but all the same colour, length and material. If you wanted to have more control about what type of dress they have you could always do what I did. Though I guess if they are all in the same country you can just give them a list of dresses you approve of and let them away to pick whatever they want from the list.
Post # 6
The wedding will be in Indiana and FSIL/BM is there. My other Bridesmaid or Best Man will be in DC, Maid/Matron of Honor in NYC, and myself in either Boston or NYC. I plan to spend a day with each of them going shopping for their dress, and beyond that, I included in asking them to be my Bridesmaid or Best Man which days I needed them to be in town for. While I don’t expect them to drop anything to make it, I do really want my girls around me the day before the wedding so I wanted to make sure I made that request up front!
Post # 7
Oh I wish so much that I could go out and visit each of my gals before the day. Unfortunately none of us has enough money to do that. The Darling Husband and I have one trip planned to CA to check out venues and such and then one trip to Idaho where my family lives (who cannot attend the wedding).
And like I said my Maid/Matron of Honor is moving to France in 4 days lol.
So I guess I have a few things that I’m trying to keep in mind…budget friendly Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses, Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses that compliment my dress, and how to keep everyone involved since the lead lady is out of the country it’s most likely gonna be up to me.
So I’m wearing an ivory A line, very simple, and was thinking grey cotton or knit Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses. The hard thing about letting the ladies choose is that most party dresses are going to have a lot more shape to them than mine and I def don’t want to be outshined on my day. I want their dresses to be simple simple simple haha!
I’m sorry other’s have to deal with this stress…it’s definitely hard especially when it leaves you feeling like you’re planning everything on your own…even the part that’s supposed to be with your friends. But it’s nice to know I’m not the only one and if others can do it I can too 🙂
Post # 8
I am pretty sure most, if not all, of my wedding party is going to be out of state. My absolute best friend lives in Arizona (I’m in Ohio), and my two close friends are in Kentucky. The Kentucky friends are driving distance for me, so I figured we could go shopping when they come visit (they’re a couple and I love them both, so I figured I’d have her be a bridesmaid adn he’d be my bridesman! haha). I’m leaning towards just picking a color and telling them to find a dress in that shade or going for something online that they can all easily order. Right now , partner and I are thinking of getting married over Memorial Day weekend, and if I have a bachelorette party, I could just do it a few days before the wedding so my friends would all be here anyway.
Post # 9
- Wedding: June 2012 - Centro de recepciones Los Incas
have them western union teh Maid/Matron of Honor the money and have her get all teh dresses other wise u may fall victim to wat happen to me…..some bought early then the dress sold out and nto every one had the dress and those who already bought had to send it bak
Post # 10
@glamachica45: I really wish this could happen. But my Maid/Matron of Honor is the one who just moved to France yesterday. I don’t even know how to contact her yet. Haha…maybe my guardian (MOB) will be able to help coordinate some. I’ll ask her.
Post # 11
I went through a case very similar to you, all my BMs were way long distance. After consulting their opinions on some bridesmaids dresses via FB, I made a decision and asked them to get it at their local David’s Bridal.
As far as a bachelorette party, they did not throw me one. It wasn’t extremely important to me anyway. Plus I was already married to my Darling Husband before the church ceremony/reception.