(Closed) Bridesmaids….UGH!

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

no deets?

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Aw, I am SO sorry!  If the fight is as petty as you say it is, why not try to work it out.  If these girls are good enough friends to be in you wedding party, it is worth it to take steps to resolve the fight.  After all, you wouldn’t break up with your fiance over a “petty and stupid” argument, right?

It may mean swallowing your pride, but apologizing for your part in the fight and talking it out (maybe with a bottle of wine!) could reconsile you and friends. 

Best of luck, I hope it works out!

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

so you asked them to be bridesmaids, they accepted.  [time lapse] you ask them why they aren’t checking in and they back out?  this is odd.

have you made your expectations for them known?  i think it is good to get this out in the open early on as your idea of what a bridesmaid should do and the bridesmaids’ ideas of what they should do may not align, ya know?

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

There are extremely big details being left out.

I had a friend and over the course of her wedding she managed to push at least 4 good friends away. The reasons are various from refusing to take some environmentally consious options, to being whiney and selfish, to blowing up over things that have nothing to do with her.

Not saying you did or do this, but there a heck of a lot more to the story than “we have kids.”

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

ask your cousins, i am sure they will be able to do it…or if your fiance has any cousins of his….about ur sister being due a week before the wedding thats a tuff one…is there a way u can post pone the wedding until october cause she will at least have some time to recover…its sort of tight with ur wedding…my best bet would be to post pone it and ask your cousins…and if u dont have any that alright too you can just have ur maid of honer not a biggie…hope it helps sorry that u are goign through thiss….

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

 You don’t have to have bridesmaids, you can just have a MOH. You don’t need to have even sides, I don’t see why you would want to fill those roles with women you don’t truly feel close to.

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@Karen91602: Sometimes a little time and breathing room are all that are needed. If these are women that you truly want to stand beside you, then reach out to them and help them to understand how important their presence is to you — and that stressing about the wedding and life can lead to petty and stupid arguments.

You’ve still got a couple of weeks before “next month” gets here and dresses need to be ordered.  I wouldn’t stress about getting things fixed in time to order the dresses.  I’d stress over fixing the relationship with people who are important enough to me to want them to be at (and IN) my wedding.

Post # 12
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Newbee

i’m sorry you’re having troubles with friends.

i think its sometimes hard to remember that your wedding, though the most important thing in the world to you, isn’t that important to everyone else. even your closest friends.  people have a lot of other stuff going on, i would try talking to these girls about your feelings and try to remember theirs as well.

good luck!

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