(Closed) Bridesmaidzilla?

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Is there such thing as a Bridesmaidzilla?
    Yes : (26 votes)
    96 %
    No : (1 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    2605 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    @MapleLeafMel:  I voted yes although I think she’s being more difficult than ‘zilla-ish.

    Regarding the shower, you don’t do anything to remedy the situation because you’re not the host of the party.  Since the host already agreed to let the mother come, I’d just go with it and be gracious. 

    I suppose the host could call the Bridesmaid or Best Man back and apologize for the “misunderstanding” but I think that would just result in drama and tension between everyone that would be worse than just allowing her mother to come.


    Post # 4
    360 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    1. Oh yeah, bridesmaidzillas definitely exist, and it sounds like you have one. 

    2. Totally ridiculous for her to pull that little scam to get her mom invited, but you should probably just let it go and invite your MOH’s mother since you’re closer and you don’t want to offend her. If any other bridesmaid brings it up I would say “Well Moh’s mother is a very close personal friend who is helping with the wedding, and psycho Bridesmaid or Best Man invited her mother along without permission. 

    3. If she’s going to be so stupid about the shoes, maybe you should just send her a link for two or three shoes you like in different styles and say this is what I had in mind. Let me know if there are anymore questions, but whatever you decide it needs to be solid blue with no patterns. 

    Post # 5
    933 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I voted yes to your poll question but I don’t think she is a “bridesmaidzilla” either. That kind of behaviour would be totally worse. It sounds like you are just having communications issues, possibly due to your communication styles, or living far apart from each other.

    Post # 6
    7561 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2013

    The bridal shower thing is straight up weird. Is it possible she misunderstood? I’d just explain that she’s the only mother coming now and ask what’s up.

    The shoe thing is annoying though. I’d remind her that everyone should match and to do that you all need to follow the same guidelines. 

    Post # 7
    4524 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @MapleLeafMel:  The hostess is in the wrong here: she should have reached out to you before confirming the mom being invited.  That being said, I certainly would not say anything about it to her, as it’s worse manners to call someone out on their bad manners.


    As far as the bridesmaid, I think it was kind of a manipulative move, and I would talk to her about it: “Hey, listen: you knew good and well my feelings on moms of bridesmaids coming, and now you have put me in a really tough spot with the other girls. If any of them come to me complaing, count on me directing them to you to explain this little mix-up. In the future, you shouldnt do something like this again.”

    ETA: just saw the shoes part. This girl is being a bit of a diva. I’d nip this in the bud or dismiss her. These kinds of things are exactly the reason I’m not doing a bridal party.

    Post # 8
    3082 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    @MapleLeafMel:  she sounds like a bridesmaidzilla and the shoe thing is ridiculous. She should not have asked you all of that. You have every right to say what color shoes you want her to get. Does she think this is her wedding? 

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