Post # 1
Hi there, very happy to be joining all you lovely bees 🙂
Big question: After getting engaged a few months ago, my partner and I finally settled on who we would like in our wedding party, two bridesmaids and two groomsmen (or so I thought)
..Fast forward a couple of weeks and he decides that he would like to add another groomsman. I had no problem adding another couple to the mix and started racking my brain over who I could add as another bridesmaid. Then it dawned on me, there’s no other female that I’m ‘that-that’ close to.
I have an extremely close guy friend that I’ve known for years, and would absolutely love it if he would be a bridesman for me… but would it look strange, him being the only guy on my side? I’ve seen a few other people talk about this, but they’ve always had a bridesman on one side and a groomsmaid on the other to even it out.
I think my main thing is having the photo’s look odd, and my own weird worries about how I would dress him?
Post # 3
- Wedding: November 2013 - Garden
I think this is such a lovely idea. I’m actually toying with the idea myself. It’s either that or have no bridal party as far as I’m concerned!
I think it would be really easy to make your bridesman look seperate. I’d be tempted to dress all of the men the same but use different colours or an accessory to make the distinction obvious.
Post # 4
Bridedudes and groomsladies are totally ok. Dress him in the same suit as the groomsmen and have his tie and possibly shirt coordinate with the girl’s dresses. You could also have him wear a tie in your accent color and the groomsmen in the main color (your colors are navy with yellow–groomsmen in navy ties and bridesdude in yellow tie). I wanted my BFF to be a bridesdude but my fiance stole him 🙁
Post # 5
My husband has a groomswoman but I didn’t have any bridesmen. Honestly, I googled and looked at a lot pictures of wedding parties with groomswomen and bridesmen to get used to the idea and because I was worried about the pictures. If you want I can privately send you a pic of our wedding party with a groomswoman (I think it looked really great in the end). We put our groomswoman in a charcoal grey dress that matche the groomsmen suits. So maybe have the bridesman match the ladies by wearing a shirt the same color as their dresses? I think a bridesman should have a little more flair than the groomsmen. (While our groomswoman was a little more subdued than the bridesmaids who wore purple.) Brides side = colorful and fun in my opinion. Grooms side is usually more subdued and conservative looking.
Post # 6
I have 2 friends that are groomsmen but I’m not calling them bridesmen and they’ll stand on the side with my fiance if we have them remain standing. I don’t think I’d be into have a bridesman (i.e. titled in the program “bridesmen”, standing on my side etc…although our wedding party is probably going to sit for the ceremony but we haven;t officially decided) but if you like the idea, go for it! Also, we are having uneven numbers (5 groomsmen, 6 bridesmaids), so its not always necessary to add someone else in order to even it out.
Post # 7
I think that having a “bridesman” is totally ok! Even if people question it, remember you’re the bride and that is all that matters!! 🙂
And I also think if you decide not to do a 3rd bridesmaid, I really dont think there is really nothing wrong with having an uneven bridal party either! My fiance couldn’t decide between his friends and I didn’t want to ask someone “just because” so we’re going to have uneven sides.
Post # 8
I think its totally fine! But then again my Maid of Honor is being dubbed Man of Honor.
Post # 9
My Girlfriend did this… Thou they had one bridesdude and 2 groomsgals. They put the bridesdude in a red vest and tie to match the BMs dresses (no one except the groom wore a jacket). The groomsgals wore black vests and ties like the other GMs.
Their photos all look good even thou the girl-boy ratio was off (5 girls to 3 boys) and you could clearly see which side eachbelonged to…
Post # 10
not strange at all. i am having a “bridesman”, Fiance is having 2 females in his party, best woman and a “groomsmaid”. i dont care about it being exactly balanced… and anyone who does will have to figure out a way to live with it because its happening anyway 🙂
Post # 11
My Fiance is having a grooms woman. I think it’s fine as long as you and Fiance don’t mind bending traditionalism a bit! We decided we’d rather have the people we cared about most standing up for us rather than picking people based on gender.
Post # 12
I’ll be having a Man of Honor, but there won’t be a female counterpart from him on my SO’s side. I think it’ll look great. 🙂
Post # 13
I’m having a Man of Honor as well!
Post # 14
@littlemisssally: Hahahah! Awesome! I actually know my bridesman before my bridesmaids, and he’s soo happy! 🙂
I’d say do it, do it! 😀
Post # 15
My brother is going to walk me down the aisle with my mother (my dad passed away last year and he promised him), then come and stand next to my 3 bridesmaids on my side – it was important to me that he symbolically be on my side as he’s always been one of my best friends. There’ll only be 2 groomsmen on my fiancé’s side, the boys will each have a girl to walk with. My brother will wear the same grey suit as the other guys but instead of white shirt & eggplant tie he’ll have eggplant shirt and some kind of other tie. I like the idea of using the accent colour that someone else suggested!
It’s your wedding, do what you want to do and don’t worry about what ‘should’ happen or what is ‘traditional’ I say.