Post # 1
Is anyone else not having a traditional bridal party? FI wants to include his little (22) sister in the wedding but we aren’t close and I don’t believe in putting people in your bridal party just to put people there. I suggested she be a groomsgirl and he loves it. She can get a dress that matches their suits and stand on his side. I belong to Offbeatbride.com and of course this is not unheard of and there are some lovely photos of mixed parties.
What would you think as a guest if you seen a mixed bridal party?
Post # 3
I’d think it was cool! Great thought.
Post # 4
I wouldn’t be surprised at your wedding to see this but that’s because I know you two 🙂 I think it would fit you well and love the idea!
Post # 5
I like it, and it makes sense to me. The people you are close with should be standing up for you, regardless of their gender. The people close to your FI should stand up for your FI, regardless of their gender.
I wanted to do something similar and have my brother stand for me, and FI’s sister stand for him. My brother is 11 years younger than us and lives in another state (so my FI isn’t close with him at all). I like FI’s sister a lot, but I wouldn’t say we are close. I kept trying to sort of explain this to people in the family, and they just weren’t getting it. So, we’re going to call my bro a GM and FI’s sister a BM. Just makes it easier than having to explain it… although we may still have my bro stand behind me, and FI’s sister stand behind him at the ceremony.
Post # 6
We had a bridesman and a groomswoman. We loved it and so did everyone else. It made sense for us. Our bridesman wore the same tux as the GMs and the Groomswoman chose her dress from the same selection as the BMs (I chose a fabric and a colour and they each chose their own dress).
Post # 7
My best friend is a guy and he was my Man of Honor. Wouldn’t have had it any other way!
Post # 8
I always like it when I see that.
Post # 9
I had my two brothers and sister-in-law stand up for me.
My DH had his sister and two best friends stand up for him.
I wouldn’t have had it any other way! In my opinion, it makes so much more sense to have the people closest to you standing next to you that day. One of my brother is my twin, and I’ve literally been with him through every major life moment. It would have been weird if he weren’t standing next to me at my wedding. All of our guests thought it was a great idea too.
Post # 10
I’ve never been a bridesmaid, but I’ve been a “groomswoman” twice. And I’m having 3 guys and 3 girls as my “bridespeople”. When I stood with the men, I got to pick my own dress (yay!) and just had to make sure it was the same color as the guys tuxes (in one case black, in another, brown). It’s way better than being a bridesmaid imho, b/c I feel like I get to be a spy for a day and hang out with the guys for the bachelor party, getting ready, etc. It’s the best of both worlds!
Post # 11
My brother is going to be my Man of Honor. I would never be able to put anyone else above him in my bridal party just because he’s a guy. He’s also walking me down the aisle and the only person standing up with me so he’s pretty important to me. I think it makes sense to have the people who mean the most up next to you regardless of gender because I’d be jealous if my FI got to have my brother beside him (he’s having his brother and best friend beside him so we have an all male unbalanced bridal party).
Post # 12
I hope to do this!
We want to put my brother on my side and his sister on his! But we aren’t going to tell them until the day of or rehearsal! hehe! WE LOVE THE IDEA!!!
Post # 13
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
I wouldn’t think anything of it, since I did it myself and I don’t think it raised any eyebrows. 🙂 Good for Mr. Tattoo for including his sister instead of asking you to! My brother stood on my side and I wouldn’t have done it any other way.