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I have a bridesman. I don't see what the big deal is. My opinion is, if a guy is important to you then he should stand on your side with you, not with your FI just to be PC. Just my opinion though!
We're doing both. Like on my side will be my sister, a girlfriend of mine, my guy best friend, and my nephew. On his side, he'll have his brother, sister, guy friend, and niece. We're doing boy/girl order on each side. It just works :)
It seems like it would be really cool to have his sisters on his side, and your male cousins on your side.
Have a good day!
I have a bridesman and my fiance has a groomswoman. Some of my fiance's groomsmen don't quite understand why a woman is invited to his bachelor party, but whatever. To me, it's not a big deal.
I have a bridesman and The Guy has a a groomswoman.....it makes sense for us.
My fiance has a best woman (his sister). I think it's great. She's wearing a black dress (in the same style as the BM dresses, which are aqua) to match the groomsmen's tuxes and accessories to match the ties. In your case, it sounds like you could have your two cousins on your side and his two sisters on his side and it would still be symmetrical-- just switched genders. I think that'd look nice. For bridesmen, I would have them just in suits/tuxes, and if you had any women in your party you could have the vests/ ties match the bridesmaids. Or you could have a neutral bridesmaid dress color (if you have girls also), like champaigne or gray, and then have the bridesmen in tuxes that match the dress color.
I wanted a bridesman/Man of Honor but FI thought it would be too controversial for his very Catholic family. So we opted for the guy to be a groomsman.
I had a bridesman, I'm not sure what the big deal is either. At my sister's wedding, she had me and our other sister as bridesmaids and her hubby had his two sisters as groomswomen. All female bridal party = fun! It's about the people who will support you, not what gender they are.
@lazylazywoman Wow I think you read minds. I want to have my cousins wear vest that matched the bridesmaids dresses with the ties to maybe match the sash of the dresses. For the groomsmaids, I would have them match the groomsmen with the ties matching the sashes. Everyone's sashes and ties will probably be the same color. I think is sister would want to stand for him and not me anyway.
I'm having my best guy friend, and he is standing on my side. We have 4 each; the FI has 4 groomsmen, and I have 3 bridesmaids and a bridesman. My only concern now is to figure out the processional/recessional arrangement. Any ideas? Just to complicate things further, two of the groomsmen are actually co-best men, and two of the bridesmaids are co-maids of honor...
Just have the guys walk separate. Or if they have a sense of humor have them walk together.
My brothers are standing up for me and my FI's sister is standing up for him. We figured that we've known our siblings our entire lives, so why would they stand next to the other person on our wedding day? It made sense to us!
My FMIL gets really confused and keeps asking me who my maid of honor is. I said it's whoever feels like holding the ring that day!
I have a bridesman (my little faux brother). He is going to escort my mom to her seat.
I completely support the idea of a bridesman or groomswoman! I had one female cousin decline to being a bridesmaid and another who is waiting to hear about the status of an overseas job offer. So I had to go down the list of who I would ask next and I have some male friends closer than other female friends! I brought the idea of a bridesman to FI but he's pretty traditional with having only girls on my side and guys on his side so he vetoed it :(
I'm having my two brothers as bridesmen/joint men of honor. I couldn't think of two people I'd rather have up there with me, so it just made sense.
My fiance is having his brother and his bff (who he thinks of as his brother from another mother) as groomsmen.
My FMIL is also rather confused by me having my brothers as bridesmen. She keeps asking about my "attendants" and what color dresses they'll be wearing. I just have to keep explaining that I don't have any bridesmaids.
My son is my bridesman and my fi sisters are his co bestwomen. My colors are brown/ivory/burntorange. So the guys will wear brown suits and my fi will wear a burnt orange tie his sisters are wearing burnt orange gowns, identical to my moh and bm who are wearing brown and my son will wear a brown tie to go with my side.
My future SIL had her best friend (male) as her "Best Person" in her wedding, in lieu of a MOH. It was a Catholic wedding, and the priest was slightly put-off, but all in all it was not an issue :) So many traditions have been rewritten in this new age - do what you're comfortable with!!
And PS - the groom shouldn't have to "allow" anything - this is your choice!!
My brother will stand with me. My FI isn't close with his sister and didn't want her in the wedding, but if my brother had been a groomsman it would look like not making her a bridesmaid was my choice. The thought of not including my brother breaks my heart, so I put him on my side.
I had 3 bridesmen! My husband had his sisters on his side as well! Everyone in our wedding party appreciated that they could "stand behind" and support us as individuals (becoming a married couple). Sorry if that doesn't make sense, but that is how our wedding party expressed their feelings about being "bridesmen and groomswomen"! :-) In our program we listed everyone under "Wedding party" and stated their relations to us (i.e. "sister of the groom", etc.). 
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I agree that you should go for it.
My brother is going to be my Man of Honor, along with 3 bridesmaids. Then my FI will have his brother has his Best Man, along with 3 groomsmen. Neither of us have sisters, so to have all the brothers be groomsmen + the friends my FI also wanted to include, it would have left us very uneven. This works out perfectly. Plus, my brother and I are very close, and he is autistic and would feel more comfortable standing next to me also.
For the recessional, the Man of Honor and Best Man will each walk separately down the aisle and the other bridesmaids/groomsmen will pair up. My Man of Honor will just wear the same tux style and colors as the best man/groomsmen.
Our Best Man is my fiance's best friend- and she's a woman. We are having her wear a black satin dress like the bridesmaids are, but she will not carry a bouquet, but wear a boutenneire or corsage, and she will stand on the groom's side.
We are calling her the "Groom's Matron of Honor"...clever!
My older brother was my Man of Honor. DH's older brother was his best man. We didn't have any other bridal party members.
Even if he didn't have a female standing on his side, I still think it would be ok.
My best friend (and MOH) is planning to have 2 honor spots whenever she gets married- a Man of Honor and a Lady of Honor (me).... she doesn't like the word Matron, hence the Lady thing :)
Her current SO doesn't have any ladies planned on his side, though, but they aren't worried about it at all. Her Man of Honor is gay and so is one of his groomsmen, so they're just going to have the two of them walk in together b/c they know neither of them will make a fuss over it!
Yeah! We are having a mixed wedding party! No one has said they think it's weird, but a few people (including one of my bridesmaids!) seem to act that way! But, that's ok! I'm totally for co-ed wedding parties! They're great!
We're actually having more guys than girls in our wedding party. We're each having 6 on each side, but my side will be 3 couples, since I'm the last of my friends to get married. In fact, my maid of honor is actually a man of honor. I love it. I've gotten weird looks from traditionalists, but screw it. the way I see it, the people who should be up there with me are the people who've supported me over the years, and whether they have a penis or boobs shouldn't matter.
Totally go for it!
I have a bridesman and my FI has a groomswoman on his side... she's actually his best friend and really wanted to include her in the bridal party, so I balanced her off by including my best guy pal too.
I have decided on their attire yet, but I was thinking of putting her in the same colour as the boys, but then I couldn't figure out how to dress my bridesman! I highly doubt he'd want to wear a pink suit. lol.
My brother is going to be the Man of Honor as well - Not sure what to do about what they wear and the processional though...
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I'm not yet engaged but can't help but think about my possible wedding. What do you think about Male Bridesmaids? My bother passed away when I was 15 and I have 2 cousins that I consider my brothers. I would love to include them in the wedding. Do you think it is strange for them to stand for me and not the groom? The groom has 2 older sisters, and to be honest, I would rather my cousins stand for me than his sisters. I'm not really sure if the groom would allow my cousins stand for him. He doesn't know them that well.