Post # 1
I’m not yet engaged but can’t help but think about my possible wedding. What do you think about Male Bridesmaids? My bother passed away when I was 15 and I have 2 cousins that I consider my brothers. I would love to include them in the wedding. Do you think it is strange for them to stand for me and not the groom? The groom has 2 older sisters, and to be honest, I would rather my cousins stand for me than his sisters. I’m not really sure if the groom would allow my cousins stand for him. He doesn’t know them that well.
Post # 3
I have a bridesman. I don’t see what the big deal is. My opinion is, if a guy is important to you then he should stand on your side with you, not with your FI just to be PC. Just my opinion though!
Post # 4
We’re doing both. Like on my side will be my sister, a girlfriend of mine, my guy best friend, and my nephew. On his side, he’ll have his brother, sister, guy friend, and niece. We’re doing boy/girl order on each side. It just works 🙂
It seems like it would be really cool to have his sisters on his side, and your male cousins on your side.
Have a good day!
Post # 5
I have a bridesman and my fiance has a groomswoman. Some of my fiance’s groomsmen don’t quite understand why a woman is invited to his bachelor party, but whatever. To me, it’s not a big deal.
Post # 6
I have a bridesman and The Guy has a a groomswoman…..it makes sense for us.
Post # 7
My fiance has a best woman (his sister). I think it’s great. She’s wearing a black dress (in the same style as the BM dresses, which are aqua) to match the groomsmen’s tuxes and accessories to match the ties. In your case, it sounds like you could have your two cousins on your side and his two sisters on his side and it would still be symmetrical– just switched genders. I think that’d look nice. For bridesmen, I would have them just in suits/tuxes, and if you had any women in your party you could have the vests/ ties match the bridesmaids. Or you could have a neutral bridesmaid dress color (if you have girls also), like champaigne or gray, and then have the bridesmen in tuxes that match the dress color.
Post # 8
I wanted a bridesman/Man of Honor but FI thought it would be too controversial for his very Catholic family. So we opted for the guy to be a groomsman.
Post # 9
I had a bridesman, I’m not sure what the big deal is either. At my sister’s wedding, she had me and our other sister as bridesmaids and her hubby had his two sisters as groomswomen. All female bridal party = fun! It’s about the people who will support you, not what gender they are.
Post # 10
@lazylazywoman Wow I think you read minds. I want to have my cousins wear vest that matched the bridesmaids dresses with the ties to maybe match the sash of the dresses. For the groomsmaids, I would have them match the groomsmen with the ties matching the sashes. Everyone’s sashes and ties will probably be the same color. I think is sister would want to stand for him and not me anyway.
Post # 11
I’m having my best guy friend, and he is standing on my side. We have 4 each; the FI has 4 groomsmen, and I have 3 bridesmaids and a bridesman. My only concern now is to figure out the processional/recessional arrangement. Any ideas? Just to complicate things further, two of the groomsmen are actually co-best men, and two of the bridesmaids are co-maids of honor…
Post # 12
Just have the guys walk separate. Or if they have a sense of humor have them walk together.
Post # 13
My brothers are standing up for me and my FI’s sister is standing up for him. We figured that we’ve known our siblings our entire lives, so why would they stand next to the other person on our wedding day? It made sense to us!
My FMIL gets really confused and keeps asking me who my maid of honor is. I said it’s whoever feels like holding the ring that day!
Post # 14
I have a bridesman (my little faux brother). He is going to escort my mom to her seat.
Post # 15
I completely support the idea of a bridesman or groomswoman! I had one female cousin decline to being a bridesmaid and another who is waiting to hear about the status of an overseas job offer. So I had to go down the list of who I would ask next and I have some male friends closer than other female friends! I brought the idea of a bridesman to FI but he’s pretty traditional with having only girls on my side and guys on his side so he vetoed it 🙁
Post # 16
I’m having my two brothers as bridesmen/joint men of honor. I couldn’t think of two people I’d rather have up there with me, so it just made sense.
My fiance is having his brother and his bff (who he thinks of as his brother from another mother) as groomsmen.
My FMIL is also rather confused by me having my brothers as bridesmen. She keeps asking about my “attendants” and what color dresses they’ll be wearing. I just have to keep explaining that I don’t have any bridesmaids.