Post # 1
I have 8 bridesmaids, the Fiance has 9 groomsmen (almost all are his brothers) but I feel like that set up tragically leaves out my 3 best guy friends. 🙁
One was a high school and college amazingly loyal friend (who my fi LOVES and insists on hanging out with as much as possible). One was my college roommate and dear friend (who the Fiance is also really close to). One was my best friend from child hood (and we haven’t missed a minute since pre-school) who I’ve always referred to as a little brother.
How do I include them? Are any of y’all having bridesmen?
I already have ushers, so thats out. I don’t want to add them to the FI’s side because he already has more than me.
I ran it by my mom and she said I was nuts and the wedding would look like a circus.
Post # 3
My mom is saying the same thing – she’s already going nuts about 8 BMs, 8 Groomsmen, and 2 ushers!
Hmmm…I had my fiance make one of my best guy friends a groomsman, and I made my other two best guy friends ushers…
Could you have the guys do readings during the ceremony? Or maybe you could have the DJ recognize them during the intros???
Post # 4
We had a “dude of honor.” (That was his choice of a title.) The world did not end.
It seems to me that the tradition is to have your closest friends stand up for you. If your closest friends are guys, it is better to have guys standing up for you than to try to shunt them off somewhere else.
Post # 5
I might have them have a special part in the service, maybe they can help seat your grandparents, or light the candles at the beginning…something. But I’m not sure that I’d try to fit anyone else on the stage…It’s going to be a lot of activity going on, and may take attention away from you and your Fiance…Just a thought!
Post # 6
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
That is an enormous wedding party, but I don’t think it’s “whack” at all–it better not be, anyway, since I have two bridesmen. 🙂
Post # 7
I have a small wedding party but 1 of 4 attendants is a “bridesman”. He’s the Will to my Grace. I don’t really care if anyone thinks it is odd. On the other hand 11 people in your wedding party is A LOT!
Post # 8
I have my best male friend as my Man of Honor. I have known him the longest out of all of my friends and it would of seem strange not to have him there. So the way we are doing it. The groomsmen all 7 will walk down first and stand on their side, then my Man of Honor and the rest of my bridal party 6 girls will walk down. And when we leave my Man of Honor and my Maid of Honor will walk down together behind us and then the next three of my bridesmaids will walk back with one groomsmen and then the final two bridesmaids will have two groomsmens on each side.
Post # 9
I have a bridesdude, and I wouldn’t want it any other way. He’s my dear friend, and he’s one of the few people I want standing up there with me when I get married to Mr. Octo. Don’t worry about it!
Post # 10
LOL, uh…huge party!
I totally think male bridal attendants are fine. But at this point, with that size of party…there are other ways to honor people.