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Since no one has bought anything yet I think you'd be perfectly within your rights to say "hey girls I know I said to choose your own dress, but I found this one that I really love and goes perfectly with our theme. I'd love it if we could all go & try it on..." I say try it on bc I think you need to keep an open mind - it's a really cute dress and looks fab on the model, but you may end up deciding against it when you've got real people wearing it :)
It doesn't matter if FSIL doesn't like it - the job of a BM is not to love her dress :) It would be great if they all love it, but they will live otherwise (unless it's like $500 and you expect them to pay for it themselves).
I think you shoudl be honest with your bridesmaids and tell them what you want them to wear. They will understand, especially since no one has bought a dress yet. B/c your MOH already has an idea about hers, I'd suggest talking to her separately, versus sending out a mass email to all of them. Explain to her what you said in this post about it being weird with her the only one wearing a long dress--maybe tell her that it just seems too formal for the event. I'm sure she will understand!
Thanks for the advice!! I've sent an email to my MOH explaining both situations. Hopefully we'll figure out something soon...because those dresses need to be ordered!
Yeah, I think at this point you can take charge... those dresses DO need to be ordered soon!
I love that first dress when on earth did you find it? I've been searching for months for my BM dresses and nothing has stood out until now!!!
ok sorry on to you... I think its really cool that your MOH wants to stand out but TOTALLY see your point about being in a short dress while she's in a long. That's really a tough one. Maybe she could purchase the short dress your other girls are wearing and change into that? But still that is asking her to purchase 2 dresses... its still an idea though.
People change their minds all the time, and I don't think there's anything wrong with that. They haven't purchased their dresses yet, no harm done. The dress is sooo awesome and the petticoats will be killer! I LOVE your alice theme! That's one of my favorite books. I can't wait to see more of your wedding!
That's so cute! at least show it to them! It'll be fine since they don't have anything yet!
As a bridesmaid, I kinda prefer it when the bride tells me exactly what to wear... That way a) I don't have to think about it :-) and b) I don't have to worry whether she would really prefer me in something else. Certainly nice to take a poll of your bridesmaids to find out what they like and how much they can spend, but then average the results and pick your favorite (multiples are still okay, ie when you say pick dress a, b, or c). I also got the same opinion from my bridesmaids when i got married last year.
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I originally told my five bridesmaids they could pick out any Alfred Angelo dress in blue jay. Sounds simple, right? Well, there's five months till the wedding, and no one has their dress yet! My MOH has an idea, which is this dress:
(the accent color will be ivory)
While it's a nice dress, for some reason my MOH has decided to be set apart from the other girls by wearing a long dress. I'm all for setting her apart as my MOH, but all the other girls will be in shorter dresses (it's the one thing they've all confirmed). So she'll stand out there.
The other thing is that I'm changing into a different dress after dinner. It's a short dress made from a pattern originally printed in 1956.
(it's, um, not made yet)
That means during the reception there will be a bride and four bridesmaids in short dresses, and one MOH in a long one. So there's the first problem!
The second problem? I found a bridesmaid dress I would love love love my girls to wear:
How cute is that?! It's a simple, pretty dress with a retro twist- perfect for a retro Alice in Wonderland wedding. I would also love to ramp up the retro by adding small petticoats under the dress- blue for the 'maids and ivory for the MOH.
The trouble is, I know my FSIL isn't a fan of the dress, and I don't know if I can rewind and tell the girls that this is what I like.
How on earth do I disentangle myself from this situation without becoming Bridezilla?