- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
(Note: When I use the word “you” I am referring to you and your FI, it’s his wedding too!)
I’m tired of hearing people use the term Bridezilla in a bad way. I think we all need to embrace our inner Bridezillas and rid the wedding world of this stigma. I’m not talking about being rude, there is never and excuse for that. I’m talking about taking a stand to get what WE want on OUR wedding day!
I have recently proclaimed, quite proudly I might add, that I WILL be a Bridezilla. Why? Because when I talk to people about the problems I’m having in the planning process I’ll hear 1 of 3 things:
1 – “The day should be about you, don’t listen to what others say.”
2 – “The day is really about making everyone else happy and you should just buckle down and get through it.”
3 – “The day SHOULD be about you, but it’s really about everyone else.”
Well, you know what? The only way to ensure that the wedding day, that really should be about you, is about you, is to become a Bridezilla. This means telling people, “No, I’m not going to incorporate that tradition you want.” Or, “No, I’m not inviting so-and-so, I don’t know them.” Or even, “You are getting out of control, this isn’t your wedding. If you don’t realize this then I’m going to have to ask you to not take part.”
If you want to enjoy your wedding then you are only one who can make that happen. If that means pissing people off then so be it, because your happiness is paramount. If someone wants you to compromise your happiness on your wedding day to make themselves happy then they don’t have your best interests at heart and they don’t deserve to get their way, not on this day. Sometimes, they need to be told, “No” before they even realize what they are doing. But there is no point in you stressing and worrying and being made unhappy so that they can be satisfied.
The bottom line is this: In order to enjoy your wedding, you need to make it YOUR wedding. And the only way to do this is to stand up for what you want. If this means you become a Bridezilla, then all the power to you!
I am a Bridezilla and proud. Are you?