Post # 1
Today my mother called to let me know she had been talking to my grandmother(fathers mom) over the weekend and had told her that my bridesmaids and herself would be wearing navy. So apparently my grandmother then decides That she too will get a navy dress and she also said she will get my cousin a navy dress aswell. So this made me flip out, I dont want everyone in the same color. I kinda flipped out on my mother because I had told her to stop spilling details! Especially to her because she knows I do not have a good relationship with my grandmother and if I didn’t have to she wouldn’t have even gotten an invite. I don’t consider this woman to be my family. I have not seen her in 10+years and she was incredibly nasty my whole life. Am I totally crazy for being this upset? Am i wrong to expect my mother to call and fix this??
Post # 2
I wouldn’t care. I don’t think this is a battle worth fighting. If you aren’t close with her then how many pictures will she be in? One? Who cares. I would let it go.
Post # 3
I think you can ask your mother to not share wedding details as you would like things to be a surprise for your guests.
However, on this one, I think the ship has sailed. Navy is a very common color that any number of your guests may be wearing. It won’t be the exact dress as your bridesmaids, so it’s fine.
Post # 4
It’s just a dress. Perhaps your grandmother is doing this to spite you, and if you guys have a rocky relationship that wouldn’t surprise me, but you getting upset is only going to add fuel to the flames. It really doesn’t matter. Like PP said…you will be in like one picture with everybody. It isn’t the end of the world.
And, on a side note, if you don’t want your mom spilling details you should maybe consider not saying anything to your mom next time, especially if you don’t want your grandma to know.
Post # 5
Yes, I think you are being rather crazy about this. Who cares if they wear navy? I highly doubt guests will notice and they likely won’t be in many pictures.
Post # 6
That’s so rude on her end to choose her color of dress bases on what your bridesmaids are wearing!! That’s GRANDMAZILLA! I would probably be upset too. Definitely ask your mom to stop giving out details but I wouldn’t ask her to call crazy granny back and tell her to pick a different color.
Post # 7
my bridesmaids, MOB, and MOG also all wore navy. if someone else wore a navy dress, i couldn’t even tell you if they did. nor would i have cared.
but tell your mom to stop giving details and then you will know that everything is coincidental and not done on purpose.
Post # 8
Yes, I do think you are being totally crazy. Who cares if one more person wears navy blue? It’s such a classic, reliable, go-to color and most people look great in it which is probably why you picked it for your girls.
Drop the dress issue with grandmother but totally tell your mom to zip it. Mom is probably just really excited and didn’t mean any harm but if it’s causing you stress, your mom should be able to respect your wishes and stay quiet.
Post # 9
They could’ve all ended up wearing navy on accident, would you be freaking out like this?
What exactly would your mother be fixing? She shared information about her daughters wedding, strangely some of your relatives decided to wear the same color.. I don’t see the problem. Strange reasoning but definitely not a problem.
Post # 10
So it happened. I don’t blame you for being upset. I had someone ask my colors too and then immediately starting to talk about dress shopping for that color. Seriously? I had to stop her and say it was for the wedding party and that she should wear another color, then I started suggesting a few that would look great on her. I still think she was clueless, though.
Maybe explain to your mom, that it is only for the wedding party. If your mom hasn’t got her dress yet, why not suggest her and the grandparents be in accenting colors (not sure what other colors you have), or even a light blue or gray? Definitely tell her she needs to call her back and submit your suggestions of other colors. That way in pics at least they coordinate if that is what she is looking for.
Post # 11
Shannn099: being upset isn’t bridezilla. But demanding that people not wear a specific color is. It’s a case of really unfortunate and perhaps you can let your mom know that you didn’t appreciate her sharing the details with an obligatory invited guest, but beyond that it’s a suck-it-up sitauation.
Post # 12
Ok so I’ve cooled down a bit Lol! I understand that any guests could show up wearing navy and that’s not what bothers me. I love navy it’s one of my goto colors, especially for weddings. I have been very laid back when others ask me what to wear, I tell them whatever’s comfortable. It’s just her! She’s just awful & I definitely think she’s doing it to spite me! But there are much bigger things to worry about, she can go ahead and wear whatever she wants!! I definitely went a bit overboard so I called and apologized to my mother & told her not to worry about calling her back.
Thanks for the advice!!
Post # 13
Shannn099: I definitely think it’s going to be a losing battle. Don’t worry about it. You will be the one in the big white dress. Your bridesmaids will be standing beside you. No one will mistake your grandmother with your bridesmaids. She does not have to be in the photos. Trust me, no one will even notice and this is something that will drive you crazy otherwise.
Post # 14
- Wedding: April 2015 - Family Farm
Shannn099: I agree that there are much bigger things to worry about. People have a tendency to forget that they were rude or mean. She probably just thinks along the lines of “Oh. Navy. Yes, I’ll wear navy too cause I am part of the brides family.” I don’t know her so it could be spite, but honestly I would brush it off. Not a single person will be looking at her.
Remind your mom that while an honest slip up may happen to please be more careful in the future.
Post # 15
Fix what exactly??? Do you think your grandma is going to be mistaken for a BM?? Weird.
As for your mom sharing details, I can see why that is annoying but here’s the thing, if you don’t the share details, then there is nothing to spill. So you have control over what you share. Once its out, there is no guanteee it won’t be passed along.