(Closed) Bridezilla moment!

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Was my reaction:
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    Over the top : (127 votes)
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  • Post # 3
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Sorry but I feel it was a little pushy.  He probably just figured it wouldn’t be a problem since it’s not taking an extra space.  how could he have known no one else got a plus one?  You could’ve just said “we’re really sorry but the guest list is limited to serious relationships where we know both people.  We aren’t allowing plus ones for anyone.”

    Post # 4
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    A little rude. There are a myriad of nicer ways to express the same emotion.

     

    Post # 5
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    1038 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

     What difference does it make if he brings someone else or his gf? Both still take up the same chair. 

    Post # 7
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    Bumble Beekeeper

    @naturedoc1112:  I would feel happy that my friend came to my wedding!

    I think your response was rude. If it was me and i was insisting that it was no plus ones then I would have called and nicely said sorry fro the confusion we are really bummed that Mr so&so’s girlfriend’s name can’t make but we are unable to extend an invite to anyone not named on the actual invite.

    Post # 8
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    1038 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

     How would you feel if one of your guests showed up with a total stranger?

     

     

    I’m having a small wedding with immediate family and close friends only.  One of my close friends from HS is coming and I already know he won’t bring his gf(he lives in England and gf can’t afford to come with him).  But I still told him I’ll still put “plus guest” on his invitation.  I know he used to live about 30 minutes from where our destination wedding is in Florida so thought maybe he would want to bring a friend from there or maybe his mom (to maximize his time in the states on his military leave).  I trust he won’t bring someone that will annoy us.

     

    For me though, I’m incredibly touched that he is making special plans to take leave just for my wedding, so if he wants to bring someone with him, I’m all for it.  The boy is flying all the way from England for me, I can spend the extra $25 it will cost me for the caterer for the guest to come. 

     

     

     

    Post # 10
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @naturedoc1112:  Well maybe call him and explain the situation more on the phone.  That way he understands it is nothing against him. My friend will know many of the guests(many of us went to HS and we are all in our 30s now so it will be a mini HS reunion).  But he is one of the only single people coming so that is why I wanted him to have a “plus one” option, no matter who he brought.

    Post # 11
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I think your response was a bit rash. You probably should have explained to him why it would be awkward if he brought a stranger only he would know to your small intimate wedding. I think I would be annoyed also but at the end of the day I don’t you would care if his +1 was at your wedding. You would be too happy to really care that one unknown person is there. Plus you have room for the +1. But you seem to be set on it and I completely understand your point.

    Post # 12
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    Bumble bee

    Although I agree with your thinking I think your delivery was pretty rude.

    Post # 14
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @MASPA:  Same. 

    Makes sense that you would be reluctant to let him bring just any +1, but you could have told him in a little bit of a nicer way. I agree that you could call him and explain a little better. 

    Post # 15
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    Sugar bee

    @mrs.stormylove:  <– this.

    I also agree with the underlying reasoning of limiting the attendees to people you know, but there are more gracious ways to do it than via text.

    I should also throw out that I’m now more grateful than ever to an extremely gracious bride who welcomed me as a “random +1” to her wedding a few years back. Blessings on her for her hospitality, and for any couple who is able to welcome the stranger at their wedding feast.

    Post # 16
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @naturedoc1112:  I guess it depends on the nature of your relationship. I would totally say that to some of my good friends who I would basically say anything to, and they would just laugh and say okay. But there are some people who might take it the wrong way. Don’t stress over it, maybe just text back again with a little joke or something to make sure he’s cool with it.

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