(Closed) Bridezilla, not the friend I know anymore.

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
12877 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Ugh, it sucks, but weddings can bring out the worst in people.  Have you tried explaining to Shannon how expensive the flights are?  If you’re ready to back out, tell her how expensive things are, and how you can’t give the appropriate time to her wedding because of your new job and the distance, on top of very expensive flights back and forth.  Tell her you’d understand if she’d just want you there as a guest, rather than a Bridesmaid or Best Man, and give her the option of agreeing with you. 

I’m sorry you’re going through this!  Congratulations on graduation and your new job! 

Post # 5
387 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@KatrinaLane:  I am so sorry you have to deal with this! In my opinion I don’t care if my best bud is planning her wedding – no true friend would treat you that way. I have heard of women before who have been so horrible to their BM’s that they lose them all as friends. It’s sad, but at the end of the day it’s just a wedding! There’s no need for her nastiness.

If it were me I probably wouldn’t be a Bridesmaid or Best Man. But only you can make that choice, you have to weigh up how important your friendship is now. It may have been different years ago, but what matters is now.


Hope that helps!! 🙂

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