Post # 1
I’ve posted a few responses of my honest opinion and without personal attack, yet people freak out and say I’m “being judgmental”. I’ve never, personally, called anyone names yet I’m accused of doing so. If people take what I’ve said… apply it to themselves… and feel offended… isn’t that their problem?
Luckily there are some women on here who have taken my opinion, evaluated it, and respect my point of view. I guess that’s why the term ‘bridezilla’ was created.
I’ve only been a member a few weeks and am already sick of this shit and feel like deleting my account all together.
Post # 3
@Samantha_MT: Sometimes it’s not what you say but how you say it. Etiquette exists for a reason. I got flamed a lot when I first started here too. Women like to take things the wrong way and get all dramatic for no reason.
Best case is to ignore it when its rediculous and to attempt to reread you posts before posting. Sometimes I realize that if I just switch a word or two it can seem less triggering.
Edit: I just stalked read through some of your posts. I see the issue. You often say things ina format that sounds like your way is the only way that makes sense. “I don’t understand why women pick out their own rings, I didn’t and I love mine” and “I don’t know why anyone would upgrade their ring, I love mine and I think all other rigns are boring”
Both could be slightly rephrased to say ‘IMO (In my opinion) women choosing their own ring is a bit odd.’ (I agree with you on this – Fiance picked my ring and I was ecstatic at the outcome…eventually) Rephrasing it like this makes it so a bee who did pick out her own ring (which is her perogative) doesn’t think you are ‘judging’ her.
The other could say ‘Personally I love my ring and wouldn’t upgrade – I love how unique it is.’ Period. Saying ‘all the other rings out there are boring’ means you are telling 75% of bees that their rings are boring. Yes, many look alike right now – but it is because it is in-style and is aesthetically pleasing – hence it becoming a trend. A bee with one of these rings would immediately read that you are calling her ring boring. (I also agree with your sentiment here because I also have a unique ring…)
Post # 4
Welcome to wedding bee, where the truth is only welcome if you agree with everyone…
Post # 5
@suburbian: Yeah, I apparently “called” someone materialistic. When I did no such thing. She was worried that the ring she picked out what out of his price range. I merely wondered if letting him pick out the ring (so it was in his budget) would be so horrible… wouldn’t that be special? And I’m getting flamed for it… by multiple people.
@DJones69: No kidding… I’ve already contacted support to delete my account.
Post # 6
@Samantha_MT: Can you be more specific with the situations in which you were called judgemental?
I know one thing I’ve noticed that causes tension is when a Bee posts pics of a dress/shoes/decoration/hair/whatever, just saying “Look at my _____!”, not asking for advice…and she gets lots of constructive (or not so constructive) criticism as feedback when all she wanted to do was share her purchase. I’m not saying that is the situation you have found yourself in, I just know that I’ve had to take a step back on a couple of posts to figure out what exactly the OP was looking for from her post before I comment 🙂
Post # 7
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
The mods took down one of your threads that you started today for a clear violation of TOS. It’s not other people who are the issue here.
Post # 8
@badabing88: A bride was worried that her ring wasn’t in the budget (without conslulting her boyfriend) and I suggested that she let him pick it out… so it would be in his budget.
Post # 9
@lovekiss: None of my posts have been taken down… this one and a dress one I put up. I have no idea what you are talking about. I deleted one of mine today… but that’s it.
Post # 10
@lovekiss: Because the mods took her post down doesn’t make her the isssue… not even close.
Post # 11
I’m going to close this thread, as flounce posts are in violation of the TOS and the OP has requested deactivation.
xi. Members come and go, but we discourage “flounce” posts (hasty goodbyes criticizing Weddingbee or its users that are written to stir up drama). We reserve the right to delete or close these posts if they are particularly disruptive to the community.