I didn't use an inner envelop with my invitations and I didn't have "__ of # guests" on the RSVP to limit the number attending because my parents insisted that it would be rude and that people would know better.
So far, it hasn't been a problem but a former coworker/friend (not too close) told me that his wife and daughter would be out of town that weekend. A few days later, he asked if he could bring his brother instead. I didn't reply because I really wasn't sure what to say. At this point, very few people have RSVPed NO and I'm starting to worry that we'll need to add more tables.
I realize his brother would take one of 3 seats we had "planned" for him & his family but is it just me or is that odd? I don't even know his brother...
It is a bit odd that he wants to bring his brother (especially because you don't know him at all!)...but obviously your friend/coworker does not want to show up by himself. In that case, he probably also assumes because 3 seats were reserved for him and his family, bringing the brother wouldn't be a huge deal in terms of cost/space. As you said, your biggest issue is that you don't know the brother. If it were me, I'd let it go and allow his brother to accompany him. However, I don't know the details of your guest list and how flexible you want to be with it.
A strange request -- but at least he asked. Will he know many other people there? If not, he may be uncomfortable going by himself. You may want to be gracious about it and say yes. If it's a huge deal because he's not that close, then I think the mistake was inviting him in the first place, and not his desire to bring his brother.
Yes, it was nice that he asked. He will actually know quite a few people there since we all worked together (at least 10). I hate to say no but at this point, most of the folks we did invite are coming and thats quite a bit more than we had expected!
Another funny thing is that a few months ago, his brother actually asked another friend of ours to ask me if he could come to the wedding! I, of course, told him that we were only inviting family, a few friends, and some of the people I have worked with. I told him I'd let his brother (my friend) know if he could bring an extra guest once we had a better head count.
DF and I are paying for everything ourselves and while his brother is only one person, it all adds up. I explained our situation to him but I'm not totally sure he'll understand. He'll probably just think I'm being a b!tch!
I actually got an rsvp back last week with a "my husband might not be able to come but please count 2 guests for me". Um, ok. So, who might be coming? Most likely some person that I have never met and wouldn't care to have at our wedding. What is wrong with people?
I didn't use an inner envelop with my invitations and I didn't have "__ of # guests" on the RSVP to limit the number attending because my parents insisted that it would be rude and that people would know better.
So far, it hasn't been a problem but a former coworker/friend (not too close) told me that his wife and daughter would be out of town that weekend. A few days later, he asked if he could bring his brother instead. I didn't reply because I really wasn't sure what to say. At this point, very few people have RSVPed NO and I'm starting to worry that we'll need to add more tables.
I realize his brother would take one of 3 seats we had "planned" for him & his family but is it just me or is that odd? I don't even know his brother...
posted by sweetart 61 posts 2 months agoIt is a bit odd that he wants to bring his brother (especially because you don't know him at all!)...but obviously your friend/coworker does not want to show up by himself. In that case, he probably also assumes because 3 seats were reserved for him and his family, bringing the brother wouldn't be a huge deal in terms of cost/space. As you said, your biggest issue is that you don't know the brother. If it were me, I'd let it go and allow his brother to accompany him. However, I don't know the details of your guest list and how flexible you want to be with it.
Best of luck to you!
posted by carly7215 65 posts 2 months agoA strange request -- but at least he asked. Will he know many other people there? If not, he may be uncomfortable going by himself. You may want to be gracious about it and say yes. If it's a huge deal because he's not that close, then I think the mistake was inviting him in the first place, and not his desire to bring his brother.
posted by bluegreenjean 118 posts 2 months agoYes, it was nice that he asked. He will actually know quite a few people there since we all worked together (at least 10). I hate to say no but at this point, most of the folks we did invite are coming and thats quite a bit more than we had expected!
Another funny thing is that a few months ago, his brother actually asked another friend of ours to ask me if he could come to the wedding! I, of course, told him that we were only inviting family, a few friends, and some of the people I have worked with. I told him I'd let his brother (my friend) know if he could bring an extra guest once we had a better head count.
DF and I are paying for everything ourselves and while his brother is only one person, it all adds up. I explained our situation to him but I'm not totally sure he'll understand. He'll probably just think I'm being a b!tch!
posted by sweetart 61 posts 2 months agoI actually got an rsvp back last week with a "my husband might not be able to come but please count 2 guests for me". Um, ok. So, who might be coming? Most likely some person that I have never met and wouldn't care to have at our wedding. What is wrong with people?
posted by LLKFSU 11 posts 2 months ago