Post # 1
Yes, someone actually did this. One baby is turning 2 next month, the other one is barely one month old. I feel like this was a cop out- they brought along a seemingly legitimate reason to leave early. I think they only stayed for 2 hours. I felt bad for the bride too because before she had her babies they were really close and a wedding is a really big deal. This woman was even supposed to be in the bridal party but had to turn it down due to her pregnancy. I know that she practically just had the baby and would likely have some separation anxiety, but it was just for a night. It just seemed like she only came to the wedding to make roll call and then left. They didn’t even tell the bride that they were leaving early. They had someone else at their table tell her. Oh yes, and I remember when I was talking to them her husband was all, “do you think we’ll get out in time to watch the game?” And lo and behold, I’m pretty sure they did.
Am I just being insensitive because I can’t relate due to the fact that I don’t have any babies? Or do you think she should have gotten a sitter and stayed for the majority of the night? These people used to be really good friends before they had their babies and after that things really changed (ala this wedding example).
Post # 3
I think you lack the understanding that will come when you have children. Babies aren’t dolls and they aren’t pets. They aren’t convenient, they have needs and they come before old friends’ weddings. They just do. It’s not as easy as “It’s just one night” or “just get a sitter” If I were the bride, I’d be happy she came at all. At less than one month old, breastfeeding can still be a struggle. Being away from the baby too long can make the mother very physically uncomfortable and can also cause embarrassing leakage. She is still recovering from the birth. She’s probably still bleeding. It’s a time for resting, not for partying. When you have kids, they come first. There are a hundred possible reasons that she left early and I don’t think she should be judged for any of them.
Post # 4
This woman went to great effort to attend her friend’s wedding. I’m not so sure that I would do the same, and I would never bring 2 children if they were uninvited.
But, having said that, she did what she did , to be there for her friend on her wedding day, even if she did have to leave early.
Have a little compassion.
Post # 5
Yeah once people have kids nothing else matters but the kid and far too many people turn their backs on their childless friends. it’s like a totally different world. No one else matters but the drolling screaming thing that can’t control its bowls. it’s one of the things that scares me about having kids I hope I wouldn’t turn my back on everyone and put 110% of my energy to feed and change dipers seems like a terrible life.