Post # 1
So my Aunt and sister (MOH) are in the midst of planning my wedding shower. My mom, also helping to pay, is helping out so their ideas are clashing like crazy.
The hotel where we are having the shower has the option of 5 food choices under $7.97 per guest and they also have a pasta/salad bar with 3 different kinds of pastas, sauces and salad dressing along with salad toppings for $12.97.
My aunt and sister want to to the salad/pasta bar and forgo the “prizes” such as winning a game and so on.
My mom is on the fence but I think it’d be more fun to go to a shower where there was a chance to get a really great prize as well as pick my food choice out 3 (chicken salad, pasta dish, or turkey bacon pannini) rather than a salad and pasta bar because as a guest, I wouldn’t even know that I was missing the salad/pasta bar. We are also having my family and friends as well as my FI’s family and friends at the same shower so it will be about 80 people.
So then my mom came up with this great idea that if the guests each bring an item such as toilet paper, paper towels, dawn soap, laundry detergent etc that their name will go into a drawing and 3 will win a prize and that will be the only prizes we give away.
I actually like this idea because it reminds me of baby showers where the guests bring diapers and do the same thing. But my sister and aunt keep saying that it’s tacky and that they are already bringing me a gift why would they wnat to bring something else?
So what do you bees think? As a guest, would you rather have a pasta/salad bar with no chance of prizes or your choice of 3 (chicken and fruit salad, turkey bacon pannini or a pasta dish) with the chance of winning prizes? And do you think that having the guests bring necessities with the chance of winning a great prize is tacky?
Post # 3
3 choice meal sounds delish! and I think it would be very weird to bring toilet paper (or other) to a party for a gift basket!
Post # 4
I would go with the choice of meal. Those options honestly just sound better than a pasta/salad bar to me. And I’d say pass on having the guests bring the necessities. I feel the same way as your aunt and sister… I hate when they ask you to bring diapers + a gift at a baby shower. And honestly, if you happen to get 50 bottles of Dawn from your 80 guests, what are you going to do with it all?! It’ll take over your whole house!
Post # 5
Honestly, I think it’s kind of weird. Are you really going to want to lug home dozens of rolls of toilet paper and paper towels? If I was invited to a shower with that request I would probably think that the couple had no business getting married if they needed their guests to supply them with “tushy tissue”.
As for the food, either option sounds fine but if the 3 selections are cheaper and budget is a concern then go with those. FWIW, prizes don’t have to be anything crazy. I’ve hosted many showers where we gave out small potted plants or B&BW hand soaps. It’s a prize so not every guest will get one. Just those who win the games and your hosts can decide how many of those there will be.
Post # 6
I think it’s cute… But I’m not the best barometer. I like participating in things like that and unless it’s blatantly and outright offensive, I probably wouldn’t find it tacky. I would just read the invite, stop by the TP aisle at Target, and call it a day. I don’t think your closest friends and family will be scrutinizing your every move and weighing it for tackiness. I love bringing things to a party!
Post # 7
Thanks for your responses!
@UpstateCait: I keep telling my mom that, but she’s kind of a crazy woman about certain things and one of them being money. I know that we could get about 7 or 8 gifts from BBW for about $25. I’m half tempted to just go and get them myself!
Post # 8
Half of the fun at bridal showers IS the games so I wouldn’t necessarily cut out those with prizes. As you mentioned it doesn’t take expensive prizes to appease the ladies, just something small will do.
I don’t know how I feel about bringing paper goods to the party. While I understand the whole diapers at a baby shower thing, how many rolls of TP and Paper Towels does one person really need? I find it a bit odd but would comply, of course, if it is what you wanted as the bride.