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    JustlikeHeaven    March 6, 2009  

    My brother and his fiance will be getting married October 2010. I am getting married June 2011.

    I feel like if I begin talking about my wedding I will be stealing their thunder?! She does not have family living in the states BESIDES our family, her new family. So my mom and closest aunt have been helping her dress shop and so on.

     

    Im dying to start trying dresses on sometime soon ... However I feel like If I do I will be stealing her thunder.

    Should I wait until OCTOBER to "officially" announce my wedding date to the rest of our family & look for dresses & start talking about my wedding plans?!

     

    I know I still have a long time to go but I am already 100% into it!

     
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    Mrs. Louboutin    July 2010  

    Not at all!  It's possible to have two family weddings overlapping with no "stealing of thunder" and with an 8 month difference, you two brides can probably work together to have fun shopping for things together!  Don't worry about stealing her thunder since your weddings are so far apart.

     
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    mrskesslertobe    September 18, 2010  

    I would talk to her and see how she feels.  I bet she wouldn't say anything and might enjoy having someone to share this with. I would try to keep things pretty low key though until after her wedding. You would still have plenty of time to get your planning done if you waited.

     
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    Future Mrs. Martin    August 21, 2010   London Ontario Canada

    Not at all - enjoy this time together - my BFF is getting married a month before me and I am SOOOOO happy that we have been able to share our experiences with each other.

    Also I think it would be a great sisterly bonding time.

    As a side note - be careful about buying a dress to early as often that causes dress regret, but have fun looking ;-)

     
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    GirlWithARing    September 5, 2010   Living in NYC, marrying in Philadelphia

    I think 8 months is plenty of time between the weddings - you guys should definitely plan together and take advantage of having each other to talk to. 

     
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    As long as you don't feel the urge to interrupt any of her wedding announcements with your own plans, I think you'll be fine.  "Stealing thunder" only occurs when she's dress shopping and you decide to do some shopping for your own dress.  Or if she announces she's using peonies and you have to announce at that moment that you're using roses.  Let her talk about her wedding and shop for it and everything, just don't be planning your own wedding at the same time.  (Unless she wants to!)

     
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    littlebug    5/30/2010   MA

    I agree with others- put yourself in her shoes before making any big announcement. Just make sure the timing is good. During the bridal shower? No. (haha obviously, I'm just giving an example!). Otherwise, I don't think you have to wait until her wedding is over! It's your big day, too, just a little bit after hers! :)

     
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    JustlikeHeaven    March 6, 2009  

    I just didnt know how to deal with it. I am overly excited for both of us, I just feel like I should keep my excitement to a minimum until after their wedding, give her a chance for the spotlight and ill get mine later on. I think I will still have plenty of months to show my "over" excitement and joy. & I think I will hold the dress shopping until after October. Although it is true, I do go to her for advice and when I find out about something LIKE A GOOD DEAL, I have shared it with her as well.

     

     

     

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