(Closed) Broke Bridesmaids

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
2385 posts
Buzzing bee

@FutureMrsWeston:  I’d go with option 3. You can provide peramiters I think (color, legnth, maybe fabric) and let them choose. This is easiest for black dresses but not impossible by any means. 

Post # 4
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

What makes you feel uneasy about having them find their own dresses? That seems like the best option here by far. 

Post # 5
2497 posts
Buzzing bee

If you’re letting your girls pick their own dresses (which I agree is the best option), you can provide pictures of the Bill Levkoff dresses you liked as inspiration and guidelines. You can also request that the girls run the dresses by you first before they purchase them.

Post # 7
307 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I vote #2. I don’t think anyone is offended for not having to pay for something…they can always insist on paying you back privately. I am outright paying for all the dresses, and just having the girls buy the shoes and pay their own alterations (which is like near splitting it). Also I chose a floor-length dress so worst case, they can wear their own shoes and it won’t be very visible anyway.

I didn’t want my Bridesmaid or Best Man dress choice to be dictated by the brokest Bridesmaid or Best Man.

I also agree Navy is a hard color to match if its not the same exact fabric. I saw a bride do wear-your-own black dress for her BMs once ( which sounds easy in theory) but it was the gamut from shiney stretch satin to gray-ish jersey cotton, and all different lengths and necklines. One wore a prom looking dress, another was in a really hoochie club dress. Hot mess.

Post # 8
1368 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

#3 is best.


I don’t think so…?

a) there are warm navys and cool navys and sometimes they clash when put next to each other

You make sure they understand “wedding appropriate” attire. Or are they THAT clueless? And as far as cheap-looking, well they are broke so they won’t be able to afford anything beyond their budget…

b) I’m afraid someone will buy something cheap-looking/too tight/too short, no matter what parameters I provide.

If I were broke and were to be a bridesmaid, I would appreciate if I get to choose something I could afford and would actually like to wear.

Post # 9
963 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I think that option #2 is a good compromise. A lot of people here are in favor of letting the BMs choose their own dress, which is cool, but if you don’t like that look it’s still acceptable to tell them what to wear. Also, I’ve seen several brides here post that letting BMs choose their own dress was more stressful because the BMs had a hard time picking dresses that met all the bride’s parameters.

Post # 10
230 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - saint patricks parish

I like option number 1. I think its a great idea if theres a choice thats a little bit less expensive. at least you not being a bridezilla like me and cutting the bridesmaids out if they cant afford it. by the way do you have the style number cause if you want I can try and help you find the same dress you wanted except less expensive.

Post # 11
121 posts
Blushing bee

id go for option 2, but go shopping together if thats possible. then you can have the final say but also hear everyones opinions and hopefully come to a compromise.

Post # 12
804 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

You can add a poll if you want to see answers from people who won’t post, but #2 seems like a good compromise.  You can tell your FI’s sister that a couple of the girls are broke so you wanted to offer to cover costs over $100 for their sake in a way that was fair to avoid offending her.

Honestly, if you don’t mind having them run the dresses by you first, #3 worked out smashingly for me.  I was really nervous but everyone was happy and no one had to break the bank.  BUT I was pretty laid back about it; my philosophy was that a bouquet of roses may all be red, but they won’t be the exact same shade of red the whole way through, so it was okay if my bridesmaids had slight shade variations with their dresses.  It is totally okay to ask everyone to wear the same exact shade if that’s not okay with you, you’re paying for photography, you may as well not settle if it would bug you.  Here’s a picture for reference.


Post # 13
1813 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

@FutureMrsWeston:  Could you get them a sample of the navy colours you would like? If you go to a shop that sells materials, you could get a few squares for next to nothing and would be a great way for your BMs to have a clearer idea of the shades you want.

EDIT:  Also Christmas is coming up and are always followed up with some amazing sales – and Navy tends to be quite a popular winter colour so maybe it would be a good idea to organize a shopping trip with your BMs around this time?

Post # 14
12878 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think option 2 is the best if you’re concerned about the cohesiveness of the entire look.  Honestly, I don’t like the look of mismatched bridesmaid dresses, and I could see this going badly.  I get your point about different shades/tones of navy, and while they wouldn’t clash, it would be noticeable. 

I opted to pay for half of my girls dresses out of concern for their finances and let them pick their own shoes (just the same color).  It is, after all, my wedding, not theirs, and the only reason they were spending money on this dress was for me. 

Post # 15
4 posts
  • Wedding: September 2013

Can you try looking on Black Friday or Boxing Day? What about replica dresses?

Post # 16
3082 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I don’t know. I can see why you would want them to all have the same dress or similar because it’s YOUR wedding and it’s just something that comes along with being a bridesmaid. I kind of like option #2 the best.

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