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I'm sorry you guys broke up. If he doesn't seem to care if you are in a relationship or not, then maybe you shouldn't be in a relationship with him.
I don't really understand what you are typing... but breakups are always tough. Sorry :(
seriously, I do not understand what you are trying to say.
please reread what you wrote and tell me if you even understand that.
Guys she was probably crying, and is already heartbroken, and typing isn't the easiest thing to do when you are going through this kind of ordeal. Anyhow, to the OP, I am so sorry that you had to go through this, but really maybe it is time for you to do some true soul searching and see what is out there. If he didn't treat you with the open trust and respect that you deserve, especially since the two of you were trying to work things out, then I would say it is best for the two of you to have your space. This might be the best thing that will happen, because it will allow you your breathing room and to figure out exactly what you need to do to either work on the relationship or put things past you and into perspective.
Good luck sweetie!
I can't, either. But it's partly the intentional abbreviations. "n e way" = anyway, b = be, u = you, cuz = because, ur = your, coo = cool. Those, I get, but I don't know what bbm means. Plus, I think there's a lot of slang, too, so all in all I'm sorry, but I don't really understand what's going on!
Whatever it is, I'm sorry you're going through it! Hope things get better soon!
bbm=Blackberry Messenger
Sorry to hear about your break-up. *hug* Things always get better.
I'm really sorry that this happened to you. I would like to say more but like the other posters I have no clue what most of the conversation was.
Sorry to hear about your heartbreak. I guess I am too old do figure out exactly what you are trying to say here...I couldn't read the whole thing because I couldn't follow it.
I translated it for other readers.. I think this is what shes trying to say! Translation:
Anyway thursday night came and we were in his room getting all the stuff ready for his garage sale. i say 'open my side of the closet',since we have been together and ive been sleeping over. i have had my side of the room. He loved me having it, anyway he starts taking all my clothes off the hangers and i got a weird vibe so i said 'no leave them there' he said 'i need these for the garage sale' i didnt argue cause i could be over thinking. I said ok.
THan we go to my clothes drawer he starts saying you dont wear this or this and starts going through my clothes and asks 'do u want to take this' he said 'later' it was all about the garage sale but not once did he mention garage sale. I ended up taking all my stuff out and i cried because it was a sign of pushing me away
From our previous fights we had before we got back together, (mind you we havent fought in a while" Anyway he was burnt out and upset i cried. I told him 'its you pushing me away' he said 'i just want a stress free relationship', dont stress its what am i doing here a garage sale *Who knows what the op said, i have no idea on that last sentance*
Anyway the next day we were off so i just Blackberry Messaged him saying i couldnt do it. I have been trying to make it work and he wanted to take it slow but he is just moving bckwards. It has been 2 weeks and the wall was still up. I just couldnt take taking it slow and felt strung along.
He 'tweeted' when he woke up and got my messages . i love being woken up cause he woke up to my BlackBerry messages feeling frazzled *that bit doesnt make sense either)
than he Blackberry messaged me saying I just read your messages that was it. WTF obviously i did the right thing, if he didnt seeem to be concerned you know. I just wrote a good sorry so longm he wrote its all good and i wrote ok cool
the break up was a good thing i am scared that he will not come back though
How do i get through this? i feel string(no idea on that word sorry) i did it cause i never used to worry about us or think if i was ever strung along or ever questioned his love. The day i did was the day i knew he even told me he was scared for a long term commitment with me again cause things would go back to the way they were.
But if he loved me he would take steps forward. Not backward. help me. I do miss him, i know he is doing fine that he misses me, but its not enough. I want him back. I just want him to be into me ,love me again. What do i do?
Heck that was a mission to translate...
Wow nice job CC!
OP- I don't have much advice, other than if a guy doesn't have respect for you, then he doesn't deserve you.
If you could "type" properly (in ENGLISH) instead of "text-typing"...it would be much easier to read. (What is this world coming to?)
Word.
Complaining bees, please don't pile on her misery with your snarkiness, if you couldn't understand her message, from her title, she obviously broke up and is in an upset state.
Sweet Maple, I'm so sorry, but it sounds as if it were for the best. I hope you have lots of support through this tough time...
I definitely do not think you should worry about him coming back. If you tell him you want to break up and he says "Oh ok"...that says a LOT right there. I say move out, and move on!
Im sorry this happened to you...I think that you just need some time to yourself think about things and reconnect with yourself. Im not sure his heart is as much into the relationship as yours is...
as for the other bees that are complaining about it not being in english...come on now.
Maybe he's just scared, and that's why he's taking a step backwards. It's a possibility at least
For the record, not everyone was being snarky in pointing out that we couldn't understand what she was saying. Honest to God, I had no idea what she was talking about because of the slang, abbreviations, and lack of punctuations in her post. Out of curiosity, I went to her profile. If you read her previous posts you'll see that this is an issue that other bees have also pointed out to her. You'll also see that she wants to be a journalist/writer someday. She can write, but even in the posts which begin with articulate writing, she begins to fall back to this pattern and, to be honest, she loses us. This post doesn't seem to be typical, though. Usually they're at least a bit easier to read.
OP: I read your previous posts. It sounds like this might be for the best, even though you're heartbroken right now. There seem to be some issues that you need to work on, too, but that the situation with your man is too emotionally charged right now for you to do it. Maybe, if you take a long break, you can work on those things. If you and your man get back together and it works out, great! If not, then it wasn't meant to be. Wish you weren't hurting right now, but then again, maybe you guys'll be back together again before you know it.
Whatever happens, good luck, but please, please try to put more effort into your communication. This board exists solely for communication. When you use abbreviations and slang, and don't use punctuation, you're not communicating well with us. Not only is it frustrating for us, but you're not going to get the support/advice/feedback that you want because we can't understand you.
Sweet Maple, I'm very, very sorry. That totally blows and break ups can be so hard.*hug*
For those who are commenting on her writing: The woman is upset, she's broken up with someone she deeply cared about, please, please let's keep the compassion going.
Thanks for the translation! I'm 20, but I didn't even know what half of those abbreviations meant...
Anyway, I hate to be the devil's advocate here, but you say you broke up with him, and now you're worried he's not going to come back this time? Your relationships might function differently than other ones, but for me, if someone dumps me, I'm done. He might be sick of the dumping, and perhaps he wasn't trying to push you away just by taking your clothes out of a drawer (I think that's what happened).
You might have overreacted a bit, but I think for the future you should really learn to only dump a guy with whom you do not care to maintain a relationship. Because sooner rather than later, he's going to want to stop playing the games and dealing with the drama. He's already stated that he does not want a stress free relationship, and it sounds like instead of asking what he was doing with your clothes, or saying something like "I know you need the hangers and drawers for the garage sale, so let me move my clothing to give you more room," or something, you started to cry and assume he's pushing you away.
I agree with the other bees though, if he doesn't want a relationship, he's not going to come back, and you should be happy about that because it gives you the opportunity to find someone who does.
LAdies i am sorry for all the typos
but i was frantic.
yes he was pushing me away that night moving my stuff out, in the middle of sex he asked if i was with anyone?
that threw me off so i do kno he was hiding something and i was totally right..
We are very sexual for his b day a few days earlier i had contacted my friends tiffany who was fomally married to a tony. she does photography and i asked her to take naked pic of me for his b day i wanted to make a calander for him. i sent him a picture of her work the file that i had sent in blackberry messanger said tony on it.
i had told him i ran into one of our former classmates who also happens to b a tony we exchanged fb and twitters we did innocent talkin on twitter very innocent
that morning b4 i had broken up with him i saw a tweet he wrote to a girl saying good morning and gave her his location which was at the garag sell. she has a bf but still it is very uncomfortable when he didnt say good morning to me i broke up after i saw that
the next day I asked him not to sell my sunglasses because he was getting so garage sell happy.
he said he wouldnt and he asked how i was i didnt text back
that night after looking through my fb an dtwitter he was mad that i had innocently talked to tony who we both knew of and i had ran into once he called 3 times i fnally answer and he said are e broken up? i said yes we are he said gos becAUSE
u get mad at me for the debee thing when u r all over this tony guy on twitter and fb which was an exageration and thgan he mentioned teh naked pic being from a tony whiich was really a tiffany and he had been holding from askin me about for a week or so...
after fighting and me 3 waying and leaving mike a message asking tony of he gave me a naked pic he said no i just asked her to go to church.
he thinks i had an interest in someone else he didnt wanna listen to me and deleted me from fb and wrote h was single i boke it off but it hurt to actually see it even our last break up he didnt do that until he saw that
what the hell do i do
thank u ladies and thank u even more for teh translation it really helped... yes i broke up w him not because i didnt love him but becuasei felt like he had a wall up and i was right he held that in for a week and thats whenit was getting weird.
i just wanted to scare him showing him what he would miss out on and i thought itwas wrking when he asked how i was and he tweeted today i wish things were like how they used to be......
i just wanted to let him see he did need me and make him wake up that he didnt want to loose me but after he saw my non harmful tweets he freaked
i dont know what t do but just leave it alone and try to move on i want him back if things would go back to how they were but more mature
he didnt pack the hangers or the drawers he just wanted my stuff out he even said i could put m clothes in your drawer which was never a complaint b4
You walk away, chick. This really doesn't sound like it's working for you.
I think you both need to assess what you want out of the relationship and decide if being together is the best thing. Honestly, I think you both need to take a bit more of a mature approach to things, and instead of texting, tweeting, BBMing, and Facebooking about things, TALK to each other! It sounds like a lot of your problems are based on micommunications, and I think if you DO want to move forward in the relationship, you both need to lay it all out and agree to be honest with each other. Good luck, I hope it works out for you.
I think since both of you are trying to get the best of one another, thinking to yourselves 'I'll show him' or 'I'll show her' then it's not a healthy relationship and it's good that it's over. Feeling devalued and communicating this is one thing, but doing things out of spite isn't healthy.
As an aside, I neglected to comment earlier on this because I wasn't able to understand it very well. I was so confused, I couldn't tell if you were a child until I saw your profile pic. I guess some of us aren't used to certain acronyms. For some of us, punctuation and proper spelling are pet peeves.
EDIT: Kirabee is correct, IMing/texting/facebooking each other is cold compared to talking face-to-face. You can communicate so much more effectively if you are near each other and can see the facial expressions and body language.
I think that you are going to have to let go and move on. This doesn't seem like a relationship that is healthy for either one involved.
I mean, he is "putting up walls" and you break up with him to "scare him, and show him what he would miss out on". That isn't a healthy relationship pattern by anyones definition.
Maybe you guys both need to do some growing up, or maybe it is just that you need to be with other people ...
It will hurt for a while, but maybe once time passes you will see it is for the best.
we used to talk to each other thats y i am so dam confused why would u tweet girls r knieving i did teh wring thing by breakin upo w him in bbm but i didnt wanna cry.
yes this is right i do agree this is all miscommunication and i ignored it because i didnt want to fight and he ignored it prob for the same reason we havent talked i reallyb thinkwe need time apart but its such a stupid thing look at what a miscommunication did completly suxx
as far as today we r totally broken up but i do want to communicate about this i think time needs to pass for us to heal and we need time apart
i do wan to walk away but i dont it hurts so bad i feel likei dont wanna have hope because what if he doesnt and again i will just be hurting hoping
would u reccomend that in a month i call or just wait arounjd for his call.
or do i walk away completly and do my own thing if he calls he does of he doesnt he doesnt
Walk away completely. If in 6 months, you run into him without seeking him and he seems like a changed man then maybe. Have you ever seen the movie "The Break Up," it has Jennifer Aniston and Vince Vaughn in it? or Golden Girls, where Stan constantly comes back for Dorothy, and she keeps giving him chances and he blows it? These relationships are unhealthy, and the woman tries everything, resulting to unhealthy methods for the man and the man never reciprocates.
i think if you are going to break up with him, it needs to be a clean and complete break. don't wait around for him, start living your own life. you need someone who will respect and care for you. i know that breaking up is very hard, but in the long run, it is in your best interest. best of luck to you
i just wish things were different that we had no misscommunication we had no stupid immature fights this sucksss so bad
i dont know what to do
i dont really have many friends we have al gone our seperate ways how do i get over this ive always had another guy to bounce to to get a distraction. buti am not interested in anyone.
Evrywhere i go reminds me of us the only thing that doesnt remind me of him is sleeping
i have hope but i dont want to live off that i do want to livemy life and put all my efforts in stuff in my life my school and getting a new car this is very hard for me
a break up has never been this hard
why couldnt he just change and love me and be intyerested in me like he was
i am pissed blamming myself and just crying all the time i dont want to be like this
july 3 will b our anniversary and i am so upset and down
how do i get over this
I think you shouldn't be looking for another guy to bounce to. That sort of thing only compounds the situation. Shift your focus completely from guys for the time being while you try to figure out who you are. How old are you? Have you done any travelling? Aside from guys what do you want out of life? This is a golden opportunity for you to work on yourself. Everything else will fall into place eventually.
Big Hug.
I think you need to get away if you can visit a friend or a close family member. BUT DONT contact him- you need to figure yourself out right now.. It doesn't seem like you guys were heading down the right track.. IF he contacts you in the future take it from there- but I definitely think you need to focus on yourself right now.
"the break up was a good thing i am scared that he will not come back though"
If you didn't want to break up with him then you shouldn't have broken up with him - not playing games with him. Is it for attention?
Either way, I'm sorry you're not happy and that he doesn't seem to be communicating with you. You two should take it offline and talk face to face.
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so as have u guys read my threads me and the fi were having problems
n e way thir night came and we were in his room getting all the stuff ready fro hgis garage sell i say open my side of the closet,since we have been together and ive been sleeping over i have had my side of the room he loved me having it, n e way he starts taking all my clothes off the hangers i got a weird vibe so isaid no leave themthere he said i need these for the garage sell i didnt argue cuz i could b ovber thinking i said ok.
THan we move to my clothes drawer he starts sayin u dont wear this or this and starts going through my clothes and asks do u weanna take this he said later it was all bout the garage sell but not once did he mention garage sell i ended taking allll my stff out i cried cuz it was a sign of pushing me away
from our previous fights we had b4 we got back together mind u we havent fought in a while n e way he was buyrnt out and uoset i criedi told him its u pushing me away he said i jus want a stress free relationship, dont stress it what am i doing here a garage sell
n e way the next day we were off so i just bbm him saying i couldnt do it ive been trying to make it work and he wanted to take it slow but he is just moving bckwards it had been 2 weeks and the wall was still up i just couldt take taking it slow and fekt strung along
he tweeted when he woke up and got my messages i love being woken up cuz he woke up to my bbm feeling frazzled
than bbm me saying u jus read ur m essages that was it wtf obviously i did the right thing if he didnbt seeem to concerned u kno iu just wrote good sorry so long he wrote its all good and i wrote ok coo
the break up was a good thing i am scared he will not come bk though
how do i get through this i feel string i did it cuz i never used to worry bout us or think if i was ever strung along or ever questioned his love the dayi did was the day i knew he even told me he was scared for a long term commit w me again cuz things would go bk to the way they were but if he loved he he would take steps forward noit backward help me i do miss him i kno he is doing fine that he misses me but its not enough i want him back i just want him to b into me love me again what do i do