(Closed) Broken family issues.

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Busy bee

I’d include them all.  They’re all your family and they’re all special to you 🙂 

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Well do you have to shop for a dress for your step mother?  I was thinking that maybe you could take her with you to one of your fittings, the first one (if your having any) and shop for a dress for her and she could see your dress.  

If not send her a link to it online.

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@BabyBrain:  You’ve already shopped with your mum only. I don’t see the harm in showing it to all the women in your family. Showing it to your stepmum takes none of the specialness away from shopping with your mum. Showing is not the same as shopping.

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@BabyBrain:  Oh I understand, my mum and stepmum aren’t friendly at all! My siblings and I made sure the only time they were in the same building was the wedding itself.

Why do they all have to be there at the same time? Show your mum and sisters at one time, stepmum and stepsisters another time. (Either at the store, or after you take it home).

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@BabyBrain:  My parents separated after my wedding but before my sister’s. For my sister, mum took precedence – she’s our mum! Stepmother just stayed in the background, in fact she wasn’t there helping get ready at all; she drove to the wedding separately from our dad.

A wise stepmother will know her place. You’re not her daughter. Besides, your stepmother has a daughter of her own, she can have mother-daughter time at her wedding.

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@BabyBrain:  ok I see what you mean. Our “stepmum” hadn’t been in our lives as long. (In fact I don’t think of her as a stepmother, she’s simply my dad’s wife). I always tell people to sit them well apart at the ceremony and reception, but I didn’t think about the getting ready time!

I still think mother takes precedence, but perhaps you could see dad and stepmother for breakfast, or for dinner the night before. It’s tricky, I agree.

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