(Closed) Broken solitare has insipred me to post for the first time- please advise!

posted 7 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
Member
6664 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

This is the second time I’ve heard of someone cracking a diamond! I didn’t know you even could!! Is this common? Should I worry about it?

And to answer your question, I think at this point you should buy a new diamond with the insurance $ and start over with the setting. Bring your wonderful FI to the new jeweler to pick it out, so it isn’t just your style.

At the end of the day, the ring is just a ‘thing’ and doesn’t matter. What matters is your love for each other.

Post # 4
Member
1403 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I’m so sorry hun!  I totally understand feeling guilty for something like that.

But first of all I want to reassure you that it’s natural to want “the perfect” ring because you’ll be wearing it all your life.  You are not the first person who would have picked a different engagement ring if they had the choice.  Our FI’s don’t have ESP so they either have to get lucky to pick the right ring, or take us shopping with them!  But I suggest after you have your ring the way you want it, don’t change it again in five years, for the sake of FI’s feelings.

Regarding the chipped stone, the jeweler’s insurance should cover the entire cost of a similar stone.  If your stone was certified, show the certificate to him and make sure he replaces it with one similar in size, cut, and clarity.

IMO the band is the important part of the ring, more so than the stone.  People “upgrade” diamonds and change the bands to add more diamonds, change the size of the band, and sometimes change the shape of the band completely, but they always keep the same gold from the original band.

Post # 6
Member
3041 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

You should get ALL your money back if the jeweler 1. broke the diamond & 2. messed up the setting so they should at least fix that setting or pay you partially for the band.

Your FI sounds like my husband did when he first proposed. I told him I wanted to exchange the ring (I said I loved the ring but it was too expensive & we were financially strapped). He had that ring for a few weeks & grew attached to it & it was “the ring he proposed with”, so it was really special. He was hurt that I suggested getting a different ring. He reluctantly agreed to me switching rings & I had to reassure him that I liked the ring, just not the price. We looked together & he became more ok with the idea. Then, my ring went on a crazy 1 day only sale & they refunded us the difference so I ended up keeping it. If it weren’t for that sale, we were both ok with changing it (thou it did take him a few weeks to become fully ok with exchanging it).

Be honest with your FI… don’t just go along with what he wants for you if you don’t really like it. You can tell him you like the ring, but your fingers are just so small it rubs against your other fingers & hurts. If it does that, you won’t really be able to wear it out much. I’m a size 4.5 & rings that aren’t too bulky on other girls are very bulky on me. Go ring shopping together with your insurance money & pick out a new one together.

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