(Closed) Any other Bee’s rec’d a timeline that wasnt met by SO?

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
Member
270 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

My fiance and I were together for about 8 1/2 years before he popped the question.  I never gave him a timeline because I didn’t want to have bride brain and I didn’t want to obsess over getting married.  I never once asked him if or when we were getting married.  I knew he loved me and wanted to spend his life with me.  To me, that was enough.  I just enjoyed being his girlfriend.  I know a lot of other bees give their SOs timelines and that works for a lot of people.  However, some guys don’t deal well with time constraints and feel pressured or backed into a corner.  I think you have a better sense than anyone whether your SO is the type just just needs a push in the right direction or if he doesnt take deadlines well.  I will say though, that it is very important for you to have a timeline if you are deciding whether to leave or not if he doesn’t propose.  If you want to stay with him regardless of any timelines, it might be better to just enjoy being together and not worry about getting engaged.  thinking about it will only stress you out more and might lead to disappointment if the timelines arent met.

Post # 4
Hostess
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

That’s interesting that you went ring shopping yet it doesn’t sound like he bought one. Whose idea was it to go ring shopping? If it was his, I would buy the surprise excuse. However, if you had to force him to go shopping and 1 year later he still doesn’t have his stuff together, I don’t think it’s going to happen. I hope I’m wrong…it just seems like he’s not being very upfront with you. 

Post # 5
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279 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

My FH is very bad with timelines. He said he would do it ‘soon’ in September, ‘two months time’ in October, ‘in two months’ in December. We got engaged mid-February, and he is super excited about getting married!

Some guys just struggle with timelines. He may mean well, it sounds like he does, he’s probably just bad with timelines.

Best of luck!

Post # 7
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341 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

YES!!! He didn’t meet the timeline we set last year and I’m dying. Positively dying. I cry over it at least twice a week. You’re not alone.

Post # 8
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1279 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@missjuli:  So sorry to hear that! Have you spoken with him about this???

 

Mine promised a year and a half ago he would propose within the year. He didn’t. But, he has a ring, and things are on the go. He is taking his time, but he is getting there!

Post # 9
Member
2135 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I was deeply under the impression (and apparently so was his family) that my BF was going to propose Christmas of 2010. When it didn’t happen, he said that he promised he would propose before I graduated college (May 2011). That didn’t happen either. He finally proposed that July, but those two months were the most impatient months of my life, and I really was such a bitch during that time because of my annoyance.

Post # 10
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390 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

My FI made it but only by 26 hours (said he would propose by the end of 2011 and he did).  That being said I know other bees have faced this try and stay positive even though I know it’s hard!

Post # 12
Member
107 posts
Blushing bee

Good luck, smithy, and I can’t wait to hear the story when he does pop the question!

Post # 13
Member
341 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@CupcakeLove:  Yes, I tell him everything so unfortunately I spill my guts everytime I get upset.

@nutMeg13:  Yikes! I feel that way sometimes too. Did he not propose until the bitchiness wore off?

Post # 15
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38 posts
Newbee

Yes, my SO missed two timelines…timelines that *he* set.  I was devastated and cried for a few months after the second missed timeline.  I’m having a hard time getting excited for round three.  We plan to talk about it this weekend.  I hope that telling him how I feel will help me heal so that I can be excited again.  In his defense, he means well, but I get hurt nonetheless. 

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