Post # 1
so after three years together, me and my SO broke up. Everything that i have known for three years is gone. We were going to get married in two years.
It happened because i ran into an ex and had coffee with him to catch up. i didnt think it was a big deal but he did claiming i broke his trust and he cant be with me.
i dont know what to think
Post # 3
Did you lie about it? Hide it?
Post # 4
How did he find out that you had lunch with your ex? How much time passed between the time he found out and the time he broke up with you?
Post # 5
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Wth? Two years gone because you ran into an ex ? Did he not trust you ?
I’m sorry you’re going through this 🙁
Post # 6
There has to be more to this story.
Post # 8
@misspatient: Wow I’m so sorry. I think having coffee with an ex was ill advised, but he waaaaaay overreacted. I can’t help thinking he was looking for an excuse to break up.
If a guy’s going to be like that you’re better off without him, though I’m sure it’s hard to see that now. ((((((Hugs)))))))
Post # 9
@misspatient: Ya…dosen’t make sense. There has to be more to it.
Post # 10
three days passed from the time it happened and when i told him. we always have trusted eachother 100%. he got so angry and it caused us to fight alot.
everyone says there has to be more to the story but there really isnt.
im in shock
Post # 11
@misspatient: sorry and hugs.
Is this the first time you two have broken up?
Is it possible he’s just hurt that you hung out with your ex and once he calms down you two can reconcile?
Just seems like an impulsive decision on his part…because of coffee…
Were there preexisting trust issues in the relationship?
Post # 12
@misspatient: I wonder if he was cheating on you (or wanting to) and waiting for an excuse to break up. No one breaks up over an innocent meeting.
Post # 13
It sounds like there is something deeper to this. Whether you know it or not, maybe he was hiding something or doubting things.
im sorry to hear about your break up though.
Post # 14
@misspatient: I am so sorry to hear about your break up. I hope you find some way to talk to him and see if there was some reason then your conversation with your ex or not. Good luck and I will definitely keep you in my thoughts
Post # 15
@misspatient: Well if that’s the case then I would tend to agree with Paula. There is likely more to the story in that your BF may have been looking for an excuse to break up. Sorry…I know it’s painful.
Post # 16
I have to agree that it almost sounds like he was looking for an “out”. If he hasn’t had major jealously issues in the past, to break up a long-term relationship over someone having lunch with an ex seems like an extreme reaction. There IS probably more to this story, but that part of the story is in his head and he hasn’t been completley up-front with you about it. No one breaks up over an innocent meeting with an ex, IMO, unless they were looking for an excuse.