broken up

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
739 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Did you lie about it? Hide it?

Post # 4
2119 posts
Buzzing bee

How did he find out that you had lunch with your ex? How much time passed between the time he found out and the time he broke up with you?

Post # 5
3082 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - A court...

Wth? Two years gone because you ran into an ex ? Did he not trust you ?

I’m sorry you’re going through this 🙁

Post # 6
8950 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

There has to be more to this story.

Post # 8
7905 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@misspatient:  Wow I’m so sorry. I think having coffee with an ex was ill advised, but he waaaaaay overreacted. I can’t help thinking he was looking for an excuse to break up.

If a guy’s going to be like that you’re better off without him, though I’m sure it’s hard to see that now. ((((((Hugs)))))))

Post # 11
1475 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@misspatient:  sorry and hugs.

Is this the first time you two have broken up?

Is it possible he’s just hurt that you hung out with your ex and once he calms down you two can reconcile?

Just seems like an impulsive decision on his part…because of coffee…

Were there preexisting trust issues in the relationship?

Post # 12
7905 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@misspatient:  I wonder if he was cheating on you (or wanting to) and waiting for an excuse to break up. No one breaks up over an innocent meeting.

Post # 13
920 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

It sounds like there is something deeper to this. Whether you know it or not, maybe he was hiding something or doubting things. 

im sorry to hear about your break up though. 

Post # 14
326 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@misspatient:  I am so sorry to hear about your break up. I hope you find some way to talk to him and see if there was some reason then your conversation with your ex or not. Good luck and I will definitely keep you in my thoughts

Post # 15
2170 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@misspatient:  Well if that’s the case then I would tend to agree with Paula. There is likely more to the story in that your BF may have been looking for an excuse to break up. Sorry…I know it’s painful. 

Post # 16
4031 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 1997

I have to agree that it almost sounds like he was looking for an “out”. If he hasn’t had major jealously issues in the past, to break up a long-term relationship over someone having lunch with an ex seems like an extreme reaction. There IS probably more to this story, but that part of the story is in his head and he hasn’t been completley up-front with you about it. No one breaks up over an innocent meeting with an ex, IMO, unless they were looking for an excuse.

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