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Ah my sister, you are OYO on some things oh. And I don't mean Oyo State (ask your FI about this!)
To answer your questions in order:
Oh, you know there is another lady marrying an Igbo guy. I thinks she's 'FutureMrsE' or something like that. And please, don't forget to work on your FI so you can blog for the bee. Oh, I'd love love love if you did! Hope this helps.
Hey lady! Nigerian/Liberian over here.
1. Okay you have to play Gongo Aso by 9ice, Bracket- Yori yori, 2 face- African Queen
No one be like you- Psquare, E no easy- Psquare, I love you- Psquare, J-martins- Good or Bad, Dbanj- fall in love )everybody knows that one) lol.
2. I'm not having any African food because its a destination wedding in Puerto Rico. But if I was having one here, I'll prob have african snacks, chin chin, plantains, meatpie etc..
3. No traditional geles for me lol. We'll be on the beach. But for your reception you can change to a very chic african style without the scarf.
LOL @ your mom "Ah what if Nigerians don't eat their food." I know she wants to cater all the jollof rice with moi moi and plantains. African mothers are so funny. You berrah have someone good to count all your money well well lol.
@bRooklynRocks: thank you big sis..
You know FI wont know what that means, ha. I mean we are so American we dont know what the hell we are doing and our parents have all these expectations. Instead of sitting us down to explain things they just yell.
What is oyibo?
I like the idea of having traditional food at cocktail hour. We are also have a rehearsal dinner with all traditional food.
We are doing the traditional this fall and everyone is fighting to have their country run the show. My mom is like: it has to be Ghanaian and his Dad like all about having a Nigerian ceremony. I just want both of them to be quiet so I can show up in a outfit and sit there in peace.
My mom wants my bridesmaid dresses to be Kente; Im like hell naw. And FMIL wants to do aso-ebi. Im like who the heck is paying for that? Not my friends! lol
We are definitely changing but I was telling YSQueen that I might make a birdcage fascinator ot of the African lace. Do you like that idea?
@Aubergold: Oyibo = American or really non-African actually. I love the idea of a birdcage veil with African material but truth to tell, it's very different between you and me though. I grew up there and came here just about college age so I know things that are expected. You on the other hand, have your work cut out for you :( Oh, and
@sweetdee124: had good song suggestions. I love those songs. You should go listen to some on youtube. They are very good.
@sweetdee124: Ha! my FMIL said she can predict we will get 6k from the showering. Im like I see people showering dolla bills and we are not inviting 6k people so.....................I hope she plans on giving 100s or something.
@bRooklynRocks: I know :( I mean I was born and raised in the Bronx and FI born in Atlanta, rasied in DC. Yeah I speak Twi (Akan language) fluently and guzzle waakye, jollof rice, and plantains on the regular but outside of that........Im at a loss
@Aubergold: Lol fingers crossed for you. If they invite all their "Chief & Mrs" or "Dr. & Mrs" friends you never know. I know if I had a wedding here I would def have at least 150-200 ppl and prob a good chunk of sprayed money but I kept my sanity and decided to take it far away with 30 ppl lol.
@sweetdee124: Are your parents supportive of your destination wedding? I wish we would have done that.....
@Aubergold: They weren't in the beginning but once they realized my mind was made up they came on board. We were actually going to elope....and my mom went NUTS and pulled every trick in her book to make me "feel bad." So 30 ppl was the compromise :0 Even now she still says things like "you know we can still have a big party for EVERYBODY (and their mama) when we come back."I just say "Sure, or we can go back to plan A and elope" then she shuts up lol.
@sweetdee124: Man! we should have totally stuck to our guns! That's wonderful for you, Im sure it will be awesome!
@Aubergold: OMG!!! How did I miss this thread!!!
Okay here's my feedback (sorry if it's long!)
1. PM me your email address and I'll send you my current African playlist for the wedding. I also have found jazz versions of many of the popular Nigerian songs (PSquare, Dbanj, etc.,) which what I intend to use during cocktail hour and while dinner is being served. During the ceremony, we'll be playing strictly Christian music.
You can ask but most likely, the Nigerian parents won't even know the names of the songs they may want to hear. "Sweet Mother" is one of the most popular Nigerian songs of all time. Most of the old school Nigerian music is called "high life". If you youtube that, several songs will come up.
They way I'm splitting the dancing is to take 45 min - 1 hour for African hip hop, American hip hop, R & B, and Reggae. Then there will be ~30 minutes for old school/high life. Then we'll switch back to more contemporary music.
2. I can't blame you for wanting to do all American food. Don't mind anyone who says they won't eat. After all, Africans go to regular restaurants and eat, don't they? If you want to do all American food then so be it. However, African food during cocktail hour is a good compromise.
We're doing all African food with the exception of the addition of fruit and salad.
3. As you know, we're changing into traditional attire during the reception. You know I think the fascinator/birdcage in traditional cloth is a wonderful idea. My traditional dress is a little different as I'm not just changing into iro and buba. My suggestion is to choose a dress to your liking and then have it made from the fabric you want to use. My dress will look like this with the mixture of African lace and chiffon (the third dress). However, I'm debating on having another dress made like the first dress.
HAHAHA, I didn't know you bumped this!! Thank you! I'll PM you for the playlist (im so grateful cause FIs dad says "Just play Fela!". I LOVE the last (white) dress.
@Aubergold: My seamstress just told me she can't do the 3rd dress in the African lace so the 4th dress it is. I just PM'd you.
@YSQueen: Thanks for the email! You are going to look awesome. Will you post pics on your blog?
@Aubergold: Yep. I'll definitely be posting pics on my blog when the wedding is over and do a full recap.
I don't know how I missed this. Did you figure out your music? I have to say, at our wedding what worked really well was mixing the nigerian music (P Square, D'Banj, 2Face, Wande Coal etc) in with the hip hop and R&B and Motown etc instead of having one long Naija session. This meant that the dance floor stayed steady hopping because there was never a period of more than 10 mins without a song that everyone knew. Our DJ killed it, and he had never even heard of Nigerian music before me haha.
Hi Ladies!
I'm so glad I found this post, even though I am 7 months late. I'm a Nigerian living in the DC metro area, and my fiance is caribbean. My wedding is next month (May 27) and I still havent worked on the music playlist or figured out what to do for favors!
@YSQueen, I would love to get my hands on your playlist. Is this possible?
@Aubergold- if you're serving Nigerian food or snacks, are you catering it? I'm looking for a Nigerian restaurant to cater my rehearsal dinner (we'll be serving half Nigerian food and half Caribbean food).
What are you ladies using as favors? I thought about using chin chin as favors (putting into small boxes). Would that be too ghetto? lol
@ebony6972012: Hey!! Welcome! If you PM me what city you are in, I can guide you to some Nigerian caterers in the area or to my planner who could put you in touch with numerous vendors in the area.
@ebony6972012: I actually did virgin sangria in a bottle for my favors. I had an urban vintage peacock theme and wanted to stick with it. The bottles are in the picture below with the corks.
Hello Aubergold,
I'm sure by now you have made all your important decisions. I wanted to tell you what we decided for our big day.
I'm black American and my FI is Nigerian (Yoruba)
We are having two buffets. One with plantain, jollof rice, beef, chicken mixture of stews, meat pies, pounded yam, and fish.
The American buffet is shrimp pasta, veggies, beef carving station, blacken chicken, and spring salad.
We are having a Nigerian DJ to play during cocktail hour, first dance and when we change into traditional clothes and re-enter. I am wearing the gele. Also, we have a live American band playing during dinner and through out the night. I agree with PP that you should go to YouTube to find songs you like.
We pretty much are having two receptions in one.
wow this post has been so interesting, Im not from africa but all of this sounds really cool, i may borrow some aspects from my big day :-)
@YSQueen: That is such a neat favor idea! I hear edible favors are always better received, so I definitely wanna go that route.
@HisWifey2012: Thank you! I sent you a message. I'm in Baltimore, MD (not sure why it doesnt show up on my profile, but I'll fix that).
Don't know if this is still relevant - lol
We had P- Square - Bunieya, Chop my money, E no easy
Davido - Dami Dura
Flavour - Baby Oku
Midnight Crew - Igwe & This Fuji Thing
Ice Prince - Super Star
VIP - Ahomka Womu
Dbanj - Oliver
Dbanj & Dr Sid - Pop Something
Olu Maintain - Yahooze
Duncan Mighty - Dance for me
Jeremiah Gyang - Wakar Nijeriya
Everybody dance and danced and kept making the DJ repeat the songs.
Brymo - Ara - my entrance music. Had all my female friends and relations dance in before me.
I'm Nigerian - FI is mixed (white/Middle Eastern). In order to accomodate various family members around the world we're planning two engagment parties, one in Nigeria and one in FI's home country. So the wedding which will be in the US will just be normal American food.
Do you think your oyibo friends will actually eat jollof rice and stew? I saw someone mention Nigerian food during cocktail hour only - of course the funny thing is that "small chop" in Nigeria tends to be Chinese/Indian food anyway!
@shady_lane: I had MANY American friends at my wedding and didn't have any problems with them eating Nigerian food.
@9ja4life: I heard "Nwa Baby" by Flavour all the time over Christmas in Naij. Also D'Banj "Oliver Twist" is getting lots of airplay on BBC Radio 1Xtra here in the UK.
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Hi Guys!
I just had a couple of questions for you guys and anyone else who wants to chime in.
1. Im trying to put together a list of African songs that I can play at the reception. All I know are old school Ghanaian songs from back when my mom used to drag me to all her Ghanaian parties. FI family is Nigerian and Cameroonian and I want some songs from there but dont know any. All I know if two songs from Dbanji; I would ask FI's parents but all they have are the old school 20minute Fela Kuti songs. I need some young hip music! Can you make any suggesstions? Maybe we can keep a list?
How are you splitting the music, if at all? I was thinking 1 hour of straight African, and then the rest will be all our American songs.
2. How African are y'all going with the food? FI's dad wants all African food cause it's inexpensive and his mom almost had a heart attack when I said I dont want chin chin as an appetizer. Im still trying to figure out how I can incorporate something. I really dont want all African food but maybe I can have meat pies?
3. YSQueen and I discussed this over PM, but are the rest of you guys changing into traditional attire? I dont want to wear a headwrap (gele) cause I dont want to mess up my hair. ANd I really want a very modern, edgy twist to my dress. What are you guys wearing?
Love you! ha.