Post # 1
I’ve been thinking of having my brother officiate my wedding. My fiance and I are not religious, and we don’t want to pay some stranger to stand up there and gab about us. However, people seem to think it very odd to have my brother as the officiant…what do you guys think? Thanks!
Post # 3
Hi ladycaterina! If you’re new to this site, you’ll find quite a few people who have/had a relative stand up for them. My own former step-mom married me and my guy, and it went nicely with my no-strangers rule. I say go for it.
Post # 4
not weird at all. go for it!
Post # 5
Go for it! My brother was originally going to be my officiant, but it turned out he wasn’t going to be ordained in time.
Post # 6
It’s definitely a lot more common now to have someone you know serve as the officiant. For the exact same reason you stated, we picked a very good friend, and he performed an amazing, personal and funny ceremony. It didn’t lose any of its meaning, it actually made it more touching and had everyone in tears.
It can go very badly, too, if you don’t have the script down pat, so work on writing it together…that is critical in ensuring it’s exactly what you want. I went to a wedding where the personal friend cracked terrible jokes the entire time and kind of made a mockery of the whole thing.
I’ve also been to weddings where uncles and even fathers have performed the ceremony. So go for it! Make it your own and make it beautiful.
Post # 7
Not at all strange! We’re having a very close friend marry us. We’ll be working closely with her to coordinate the ceremony – everyone is very much looking forward to it. Good luck!
Post # 8
My FBIL is marrying us… and he’s SO excited to be involved. I don’t think it will be strange at all.
Post # 9
My sister-in-law to be (fiance’s sister) is marrying us for the same reason you give…we don’t want a stranger marrying us. I think it’s a great idea…it makes a wedding personal and family orientated. I attended my bosses wedding a few years ago and her brother married her…it was very nice!