Post # 1
I am getting married and my brother in law (best man) agreed to walk down the alise with my sister (chieft bridemaid)………..then 9 days later saying he no doing it, it uncomfortable, I am an married man I will never link arms with an other women.
I dont know is that normal or am i asking for to much all it is walk down the alise for less then ten seconds. But he now gone and made it into an big issues telling his mum and painting me as I am forcing him and i being selfish.
However he is stating that he want to walk with his sister down the alise who he did not even make bridemaid at his own wedding his only sister saying that he want to have that precious moment with his sister at my wedding (if it was that precious would you of made her an bridemaid at your wedding?)
And please bear in mean he has openly admitted that he does not like and yet when i ask why he cant state an reason.
Please tell me your thoughts me?
Post # 3
@davinanageleyes: Your BIL is being unreasonable. At lots of weddings the best man and chief bridesmaid are married to other people. Like you say, it’s only a short time they need to link arms.
Although he’s not saying, I’m guessing the reason is his wife’s not happy with it.
If he’s not prepared to do this, then your fiance should find (or threaten to find) a different best man. Why should your sister be demoted from chief bridesmaid because your BIL is being silly? And yes, I agree with you, if he wants a precious moment with his sister, he can do that another time. This is yours and your fiance’s day. So you and your fiance decides what happens, the best man doesn’t. The best man’s job is go along with it.
Or if it’s not that big a deal to you, you could let the best man and chief bridesmaid just walk side by side. (To me that’s giving in to silliness, but maybe it’s the easy option). A question to ask: Did the best man need to link arms with the chief bridesmaid at your BIL’s wedding?
Post # 4
+1 @paula1248. Just a thought, maybe you can also ask them to bring a long piece of fabric instead of linking arms?
Post # 5
@davinanageleyes: That is a little much. My husband and I are very respectful of eachother when it comes to the opposite sex but linking arms in a wedding would never even cross our minds as something inappropriate. If he is unwilling, how about he just put his right arm over his stomach and she just holds her bouquet with both hands? It really isn’t a big deal not one will think anything of it.
Post # 6
I agree with PPs, he needs to grow up. It’s a 20 step walk. I was a BM in a friend’s wedding and I walked down the aisle with a groomsman who was married to the MOH. Its not a big deal at all.
Post # 7
Oh for christ’s sake. He’s linking arms with her, not sticking his dick in her.
Post # 8
It sounds silly to me. I think it is good manners for any man to offer his arm to a woman when they are walking together. It’s a gentlemanly thing to do. I don’t think that is construed as anything close to cheating on a spouse or anything.
That being said, I would probably just swap them around or maybe have the groomsmen wait at the front and not walk up the aisle with the ladies. Fighting with someone so unreasonable is probably not going to be fun or end well.
My FI’s best man is married to one of my bridesmaids. I wondered if it would cause any problem to ask them to walk with other people than their spouse, to do the traditional BM with MOH, but they are perfectly fine with it.
Post # 9
@distracts: Baaahahahahahahaaaaa … +10000000
I agree with evryone else, he is being rediculous! I also agree with PP, that it is his wife that is causing the drama. Tell him suck it up or step down.
Post # 10
@Sheepshead: LOL! I agree, but I also know from experience. I had to ask my FI’s brother’s wife to be a bridesmaid, just so that FI’s bro could be his grromsman. At a wedding we went to, FBIL was a groomsman and FSIL flipped out when he walked down the (tiny) aisle with the other woman. It was absolutely insane!
Post # 11
@distracts: I think I am in love hahaha +1
Yeah he really needs to get over himself, it all just sounds like high school drama. Maybe have FI speak to him be like dude you’ll be walking with her for like 30 seconds I don’t think it will have any affect on your marriage, be a good brother and walk with her.
Post # 12
You lots make me laugh so so so so so so much i though i was not being unreasonable at the end of the day it is an wedding and your the best man and my FI brother for crying out loud lol.
And i agree i think it his wife telling him that he cant do it because why would he all of an sudden change his mind. I guess she is just insercue i guess even dough they have been together for 7 years lol.
But i sorted it out now it going to my FI and best man going to walk in first, then the 2 set of groom men and bridemaid willl walk in then me and me my dad will walk in and my sis chieft bridemaid will walk behind me.
But thanks all of you have put an smile on my face 😉
Post # 13
@Sheepshead: Yeah she is attractive lol i honetly think it is the wife and the fact my sister is pretty hahaha
Post # 14
He wants to act like a child than treat him like one. I would tell him that your sister isn’t even the slightest interested in him so there is no reason to worry about his marriage, if he’s that worried maybe he should seek marraige counceling, and if he doesn’t want to walk next to your sister he wont be walking down the aisle. I’m sure your fiance wont be happy with that idea but his is being an annoying little brat. Whatever you do I beg of you don’t give into his demands.
Post # 15
@distracts: Bwahahahahah love it!