- 4 years ago
- Wedding: January 2015
Hello Military bees. While my FI is not in the military my brother is. He just joined in october of last year and he just left for his first deployment at the 1st of July. Everything was going quite wonderfully, his gf/fi? (we’ll call her psycho bitch) was living at my mothers house with her 2 y/o son and helping out with my mom and my gpa. Everything seemes wonderful. She was very respectful, a little untidy but hey she’s young and Getting over a nasty breakup with her bf/baby daddy at the time. But otherwise she ahd been a very polite and respectful person. Well… a couple weeks ago, my sister went out one saturday night and ran into a bunch of friends, a couple of whom are amongst Psycho Bitch’s circle of aquantainces. Well they proceeded to tell my sister that the chick is crazy! She’s been sleeping around, she has like 3 other kids that we didn’t know about all of which are in the custody of CPS. Yadda yadda yadda… Well I tell my sister ona first reaction to you know, not take everything so literal, these were intoxicated people and who knows what they’ll come up with.
So we decided not to act right away, give it some time, and see if anything more comes about. My sister and I went out the following weekend, up to the local pub and I ran into an old friend of mine Matt who plays in band. We eneded up hanigng out all night cause his band was headlining and we stayed till after the show was over. well we went to the band after party and Matts best friend was taging along… REALLY drunk so my sister and I ended up needing to give him a ride to his hotel. On our way, the dude says out loud “Man I hope ‘psycho bitch’ is still at the hotel when I get there. My sister and I are in COMPLETE shock! well after a few rounds of interrogation, we come to the conclusion that this happens to be the dude my brothers gf/fi? is FUCKING! And he is in my sisters backseat! Well my sister and I mustered up the courage to not go and beat her ass, only because her 2 y/o son was asleep on the couch in the hotel room. Well we basically called her out on it, made her get all her shit out of my mothers house and leave go find somewhere else to stay we don’t care.
well a little bit later, my sister ends up seeing the guy. The guy that was, as my mother puts it, diddling my brothers gf. So my brother has been realing with that drama, kinda depressed, she is another of the past 5 or so gf that have cheated on my brother..Then he finds out my sister is dating the dude! (who really honestly had no clue, psycho bitch told him they called things off when my brother deployed). He has basically said that if she is still dating him when he returns that he is disowing her. Well after all that my mom gets 3 phone calls in a row yesterday afternoon from my brothers afghani phone. Well calls him back immediately as she can he is just solomn, the whole time, I just wanted to call and tell you I really love you mom and I miss you. finally she hears him crying and asks whats up. well she cuoldn’t understand a lot due to crying and normal breaking up on international calls. but most of what she heard “….Killed alot of people…you don’t want to know how bad… the children…”
My mom said he sounds very upset, and in a bad state of mind. It breaks my heart for all these tragedies to be happening to him right now, although he has gotten mostly over the gf issue I know it still troubles him. I guess I’m just looking to vent and maybe get some advice on how to talk to him about the latest trauma. Do you Bees every talk about that with your SO? What would you say? I just don’t know what to say to him I’m so lost.