Brother Issues *Vent*

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper

@veryberry13:  I think you just need to put yourself in the position of your brother and think about it from that perspective.

Say you ended an engagement and then meet your current partner. You know you want to spend the rest of your life with this person and that you love them but your brother seems to be taking your break up personally and is being strange around your new partner.

How would you feel?

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@veryberry13:  I know what you mean. My younger brother was this girl. He did everything for her and went over the top for her birthdays, anniversaries and just because surprises. They then moved in together. A month later he broke up with her and within a week was already dating someone else. We all loved his ex and we’re surprised of the break up. He got used to her and she was very caring. I actually thought he was going to get engaged or married before my now FI at the time. So it was hard to “accept” this new girl. It’s always hard to get use to the new gf because they might not always be around. And it’s harder when you become frienda with tHe ex. 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@veryberry13:  the funny thing is both my brothers did this so close together. They both broke up with their GFs we all liked and used to. And then we had to get use to two new girls. Lol

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I think honesty is the best policy.  The only experience I have is when DH’s friend broke up with his GF of like 6 or more years when we were in college.  I adored this girl.  She was one of the first people in DH’s college group of friends that really made me feel welcome and she was such a wonderful person to be around.

Anyway, when they broke up, his friend didn’t understand why I was all stand-offish with the new girls he brought to outings.  One day I had to flat out tell him that I was still grieving the loss of their relationship and that I needed time to adjust.  I didn’t tell him I didn’t like any of these other girls or any of that, because what good would it do?  But he understood, and eventually I did get over it, though I still miss his ex, because she was an amazing person.

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@veryberry13:  Sounds like my brother.

Yes, let him bring his new gf when he is ready (which sounds like now). How other people feel about his personal life (like you in your situation, and me in my situation) shouldn’t be an issue.

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper

@veryberry13:  So you meet and get to know a new person? When is that ever a bad thing in life? Who knows this woman could be your new BFF or close friend.

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper

@veryberry13:  Just because they broke up doesn;t mean that you cannot continue the relationship. the only time I think it is unacceptable is if the person cheated on, stole from or lied about your family member.

If it was just a simple parting of the ways then there should be no problem with continuing the relationship you have.

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