Brother Might Not Come To My Wedding

posted 2 years ago in Family
Post # 2
3016 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

Very very lame.

I think I would have to let him know how hurt I felt about this. Not as in big fight or guilt trip, but just a statement of fact. 

“I gave you a lot of notice and this means a lot to me. I love you very much and wanted you there. I am deeply hurt and disappointed.”

He sucks. 🙁

Post # 3
1201 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: A very pretty church.


Post # 4
715 posts
Busy bee

SprinkleDonut: have an honest talk with him, letting him know how much you’d like to have him there and if there’s anything that could positivly influence his decision. 

 is it possible that it’s not about the money but something else?  has he gone to other relative’s weddings in the past? or is he just a guy that doesn’t enjoy them all that much (for example because he doesn’t believe in marriage)… does he get along with FI? will there be people at your wedding he doesn’t get along with? (like an ex-gf… an aunt he doesn’t like… his boss….) 

Post # 5
484 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

SprinkleDonut:  I must say this is one of my fears with my brother – not coming to my wedding.

I’d have a chat with him about it. Try and stay calm and don’t guilt him – he’s a grown man and has to come to the realisation that you only see your little sister get married once and he’d be a fool to miss it.

But that also depends on how he is with confrontation and things being suggested. <br />My brother would likely flip out if we were in this situation and I made a move at all – it would probably come down to my mum persuading him and ‘making it worth his while’. It just depends on the day and which way the wind is blowing! (FYI, I love my brother hugely, he is growing up and learning how family is important).

Good luck with this.

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